If I Can’t Have You, I’d Rather Be Single

I’m the type of girl that has no issue being alone. But when I met you, all of that changed, and it wasn’t because I need someone to sleep next to at night. If you think my attraction to you is no big deal, you have to understand why I’d rather be single forever than date someone other than you:

  1. You’re truly special. When I met you, there were brief moments where I had actually thought I imagined a guy out of thin air. You’re everything I’ve ever wanted, and even though I wasn’t looking to get together with anyone, you’re the unicorn of a man that had the power to change my mind. Other guys have nothing on you.
  2. Being with you feels better than being alone. I enjoy my own company more than anyone else’s, and oftentimes I can’t take more than a few hours with someone before I need to retreat back into solitude to refresh. But I could spend all the time in the world with you and not get bored, and that means something.
  3. I don’t want a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend. I don’t take relationships lightly, and I don’t want to be in one just because I get lonely sometimes. If it’s not going to be a real, long-lasting type of love, then I just don’t want it. I want to be with you because I can see the potential for something real in our future.
  4. I live for the single life. I don’t mean bar-hopping and bed-hopping. I mean not having to deal with a guy’s BS or worry about making decisions for two. I’m content with getting myself off in the bedroom and walking around my house afterward in my underwear eating cold pizza. You just don’t get that kind of freedom in a relationship. The fact that I’m willing to give that up for you really says something.
  5. I don’t need anyone. I can take care of myself and will continue to do so if you decide that I’m not that one. I’ll be crushed because I want you in my life, but I know that there’s a huge difference between wanting you and needing you. I’m independent as hell.
  6. Connections are rare. I’m not going to try to force a connection with someone just because I’m reaching a certain age or am the last single woman in my group of friends. I want real, and if it’s not real, it means nothing to me. That’s why when we met and connected so deeply, I realized that not giving that a chance would be just plain stupid.
  7. I’m happy, but I’d risk it for you. I’m enjoying my life right now. Things seems to be going my way, and I know just as well as the next woman that the wrong guy has the power to come in and mess that all up. Relationships have the power to either make you happier or take all your happiness away. That being said, you’re the only guy I know that’s worth that risk.
  8. I love myself. I don’t need to go searching for someone to love me. I know what I have to offer and that it’s actually pretty amazing, so I’m not on the hunt to feel complete. I validate myself every damn day, and I just want to give you the love you deserve. Not everyone is deserving of my love, and that’s why if it’s not going to be given to you, it’s not going to be given to anyone.
  9. My time is precious. I’ve wasted far too much time dating jerks, so now, I’m not going to be giving it out to just any guy. It’s rare that I find a man I’m willing to give a portion of my life to, but you’re worth it.
  10. You’re just it. I think you’re the most incredible man I’ve ever met, so why on Earth would I want to date anyone else? If you aren’t planning on being with me, than there’s really no point in me being with anyone. There’s just no way anyone else is going to measure up to you.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

You can follow her on Facebook or check out her website at AngelicaBottaro.ca. She also posts on Instagram @a.ct._b and Twitter @angiiebee.