If You Can’t Make Time for Me Then I Won’t Waste Mine On You

We all lead incredibly busy lives, and sometimes things are more hectic than usual and it’s hard to find time to fit everything in. I get that, but what I don’t get is why it’s so hard to make time for someone you claim to care about and want to build a future with. I can do it for you, so if you can’t return the gesture or simply don’t want to, I’ll be on my way.

  1. I’ll find a guy who isn’t too busy to care about me. You clearly don’t have time for a girlfriend and I have way too much self-esteem to be your casual hookup buddy. I want a guy who actually gives a damn. Is that really so crazy? Spending time together is an essential part of any relationship. If you can’t make time, you make it pretty obvious you don’t care.
  2. I shouldn’t have to ask you to make me a priority. If you actually cared about me, prioritizing me would be natural. Not having any time for me at all makes it pretty damn clear I’m not even on the list. I’m not saying you need to drop everything just to be with me, but I don’t think it’s outrageous for you to make a little time. I shouldn’t have to ask you for just that much.
  3. I will never beg for a guy’s attention. I’m not that desperate for love and I never will be. If you can’t give me what I need then I have no problem finding a guy who can (and being on my own until that happens). I know what I deserve, and I deserve a hell of a lot better than to begging for a guy’s time.
  4. I have a busy life too. Somehow I still find time for you, though. The effort has to go both ways. A relationship is a commitment. If you can’t commit some of your time to me, then you’re obviously not as invested in this relationship as I am. Despite my busy schedule, I’m trying to make things work. Are you willing to do the same?
  5. I refuse to be the girl waiting by the phone. I refuse to be the girl waiting on a guy who couldn’t care less about me. If you can’t make time for me then it’s obvious that you’re just not that interested. I can take a hint, so I won’t be waiting by the phone, I won’t be waiting at all.
  6. I’m not going to let life pass me by. I won’t waste my time sitting around waiting for a guy to give me the time of day. I’m going to be out living my life. There’s more to me than my relationship status and frankly, if we’re not seeing each other then there’s no relationship. This means I’m free to go wherever and see whoever I want. I won’t give up my life for some guy who’s too busy to spend time with me.
  7. This is your loss, buddy. I’m one hell of a girl. That’s right, I have confidence and I know my self-worth. That’s why I know that I’m worth a hell of a lot more than to be treated like this. If you can’t make time for me then I won’t stick around and you’ll wake up one day and realize what you missed out on.
  8. I’ve wasted enough time on the wrong guys already. I’ve already been with Mr. Wrong. I’m done trying to make things work with guys who clearly don’t know and never will know how to treat me right. I’m not going to waste another second of my time on a guy who couldn’t even give a second of his time to me.
  9. “The One” would never treat me this way. If you think making a woman wait around for you like a lovesick puppy is treating her right then you don’t have a clue how real relationships work. Mr. Right would do anything he can just to be with me because when feelings are real, there’s always time.
  10. I want a man who can’t stand to stay away. If being apart from me doesn’t suck then you obviously don’t like me enough. If you don’t miss me when we’re not together then how can you say you care? You can’t find time to see me, but I want a man who finds it hard to do anything else. My time is precious and if you can stand to go days or weeks without being together, I’ll move on.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.