What Your Celebrity Crush Says About Your Dating Patterns

Admit it: you have a celebrity crush or two. There’s no shame – it happens to all of us. It may seem like some harmless fun to fantasize about Brad Pitt or Justin Timberlake, but your taste in famous men might be more important than you think. There’s a reason that you’re drawn to certain actors and musicians and not others, just like you’re into some guys you meet and are totally bored by others. Here’s what your celeb crush can teach you.

  1. Your George Clooney love will not land you a BF. Attracted to the alpha male? How’s that working out for you? Chances are you’ve met more than a few jerks (and that’s putting it nicely). If you always go for guys that are super hot and more conceited than confident, it might be time to broaden your horizons and stop getting so impressed by good looks, charm and swagger.
  2. You might need to get over your bad boy obsession. You know that loving a bad boy will never end well and yet the actors that catch your eye are the ones portraying loveable yet unambitious types like Tim Riggins on Friday Night Lights or the always unique James Franco (OK, so those are my two picks). But swooning from afar (or from your couch) is okay – dating one of these guys is not. Save yourself the heartbreak.
  3. You think you’re open-minded, but you have a type. Your friends know you’re going to shoot them down when they suggest setting you up with that great guy they work with or their boyfriend’s cousin because you always go for the same type of guy. It’s the same with which famous guy makes you blush. It’s all blue eyed, blonde haired actors and in real life, you won’t even bat an eyelash at someone who doesn’t fit that description. You’re definitely missing out.
  4. You need to date more interesting, cultured guys. If you love a celebrity that is cute, yes, but also has some real hobbies and interests, no wonder you’re bored by one-note dudes who only love sports and beer. If you love that Ben Affleck is just as much a director as an actor, if you’re impressed by Jared Leto’s artistic pursuits including a documentary-style show and a clothing line, it’s time to date some more interesting guys.
  5. You can learn what qualities you’re looking for. I get it: celebs are hot. That’s part of why they’re famous. Thinking beyond the physical will be helpful to you. Whether you realize it or not, you don’t just want Chris Pratt for his rugged looks and abs (although those help). You love that he’s such a good husband to Anna Faris. He’s kind and caring and the list of positive adjectives goes on. So think about the personality traits of the celebs you’re into.
  6. If you’re into comedians, you need a funny guy. It’s that simple.
  7. If you’re into Seth Rogen types, you’re in luck: the dad bod is everywhere. Most guys don’t have washboard abs and have a bit more meat on their bones. So if you swoon for Jason Segel, you’ll definitely be able to meet his real-life counterpart.
  8. You’re deeper than you think. Even if you find a guy who looks exactly like Channing Tatum, you’re not going to stick around very long unless he can hold a conversation. And we all know that the more good-looking a guy is, the more jerk potential he has. Having a celeb crush will show you that even though beauty is what attracts you to someone, brains are important, too.
  9. You know that looks change. The Internet went mad when Jared Leto changed his hairstyle recently. Just because you’re into a certain celeb doesn’t mean you’re going to love every single look that they embrace. And if you’ve ever dated a guy who grew a beard that you were so not into, or who cut off all their hair when they looked way better with a ponytail, you can totally relate.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.