The Challenges That Come With Wanting It All

When you’re a woman who wants to experience and absorb everything life has to offer, things get complicated and frustrating pretty quickly. You don’t mean to be unreasonable or flighty, you just know you have one life and you have to make the most of it. If this sounds like you, you probably deal with these struggles:

  1. Average people bore you. It’s not that you’re a bitch, you’re just not looking to hang around with people who are content with the status quo. You crave deep conversations with individuals who view the world as a vast universe ready to be explored. You’re selective with who you socialize with because you refuse to waste time on people with unclear intentions and closed minds.
  2. You find it hard to settle down into a relationship. You’re in constant search of something that will light your passion on fire. You can be in a relationship, but you choose not to because you know there are so many fish in the sea. It bothers you that you’ll never meet them all.  After all, there’s so much to see and so many guys to date. Why limit yourself?
  3. You’re obsessed with building a career. It sucks that you have to work pretty much non-stop to make a real mark in your chosen career, but you don’t do anything halfway, so you’re 150% dedicated to your job. You know that in order to play hard, you need to work harder, so you above and beyond in busting your ass in order to climb up the ladder and bring home a bigger paycheck too.
  4. You don’t know what it means to relax. Your overactive imagination makes you feel like you’ll never finish everything you’ve set out to do. You want to accomplish as much as possible in a day because life is short; you have to make every minute count. If you don’t, you feel like you’re wasting valuable, precious time on earth. People have told you before that you should take time to relax, but that word isn’t in your vocabulary.
  5. You’re often distracted by your daydreaming. Which can make it hard to finish one task and move on to the next, but you manage. Your dreaming is what keeps you motivated to better your life. You know the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find out for yourself. You love your life, but you want to experience even more of it. The possibilities are endless and you think of them often.
  6. You’re constantly planning for the future. You can’t help it. The present is enjoyable, but you have so much more in store for yourself. Of course finding the perfect career is the first step, but you’re confident in your ability to adjust if need be. No matter what, you want to live as passionately and intensely as possible. You know it’s not possible to have everything, but that doesn’t stop you from trying anyway.
  7. You’re always a bit of a rebel. You’ve always had a rebellious side to you, and the older you get, the more you desire to spread your wings and fly. You’re responsible and self-sufficient, but you can’t help but go against the grain in as many ways as possible. It sounds cliché, but that’s exactly what you need. You feel trapped by the humdrum routine of everyday life. You know there’s a whole world out there to discover and you’re determined to see it all one day.
  8. People get frustrated with you often. No matter how hard they try to relate, people just don’t seem to get you — but funny enough, the feeling is totally mutual. You have tons of friends who have learned to accept you as you are and vice versa, but that doesn’t mean you necessarily GET each other. It seems like everyone wants you to chill out and settle down into a “normal” life, but you just don’t see how that could ever be enough.
  9. It’s hard for you to make genuine friends. Although they may admire your energy for life, you have to be careful because they don’t see the world like you do. It’s very rare for you to find someone on the same wavelength as you, but once the perfect person comes around, you fall even more in love with life. Adventuring with others is what keeps you grounded and motivated to follow your dreams.
Bolde has been a source of dating and relationship advice for single women around the world since 2014. We combine scientific data, experiential wisdom, and personal anecdotes to provide help and encouragement to those frustrated by the journey to find love. Follow us on Instagram @bolde_media or on Facebook @BoldeMedia
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