When You Choose Yourself Over Any Guy, Your Whole Life Improves

Making big choices in life can be tough, but when it comes to dating, decision-making should be easy and straightforward. If you’re in a unfulfilling relationship, feel like you’re settling, or have sworn off men due to a bad experience, why not simply choose yourself?

  1. You’ve known yourself your whole life. The relationship that you have with yourself is the most important relationship in your life—you need to nurture it. Don’t ever sacrifice what you want and need for a guy’s wants and needs—and remember that it’s always good to take a time out and practice some self-care.
  2. You definitely don’t need a man to make you happy. Contrary to popular belief, your life isn’t going to magically get better just because a guy is in it. In fact, if you’re with the wrong guy, it’ll actually make things significantly worse. Not having a guy on the scene and not having to think about the opposite sex actually makes life a whole lot simpler. There’s no one to answer to, no one to have to have to consider in your life decisions, and no one to bring you down when they’re having a bad day. Your happiness is all down to you.
  3. It’s important to focus on other relationships. Sure, you have to do you, but you also need to make sure that you’re prioritizing your friends and family over a guy. It’s true that men come and go, but your loved ones are going to be there for you all your life. You need to put as much time and energy into these relationships as you do with guys. When you choose yourself over a guy, this frees up more time for you to invest in your loved ones.
  4. You’re number one. Always. No one knows your journey or what it’s like to walk in your shoes, therefore no one can judge you when it comes to your decisions. If you want to choose yourself over everything and everyone else, so be it. No one else is going to live your life for you so you get the final say.
  5. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. There are a lot of kind and generous ladies out there who tend to put others first before themselves. I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to please other people all the time—it’s okay to just please yourself. You don’t have to be a selfish person to be selfish sometimes. People will respect that you need to look out for number one, especially since they’re out there in the world doing the exact same thing!
  6. Your relationship status is the least interesting thing about you. You’re not unworthy as a human being just because you don’t want to be in a partnership right now. It’s the 21st century—anything goes when it comes to your relationship (or lack thereof). It’s easy to feel downhearted and dispirited when you see or are around happy couples and think that you’re never going to meet your soulmate, but that’s not the case. You’ll meet someone when you’re truly ready and willing.
  7. You have all the time in the world to figure out what you want. If you’re actively choosing yourself, then you’re accepting that you don’t want anyone else right now—and that’s absolutely fine. It’s best to use this time that you have to think about what you want in life. Don’t rush into anything because it will come back to bite you on the butt later. You can take as long as you need to make the right decision—nobody cares!
  8. If you focus on yourself, the rest will follow. Sure, it’s a cliche, but you can’t really make anyone else happy or be truly happy with someone else unless you have a happy relationship with yourself. It’s rare that you get an opportunity in life to be fully single without the complication of men—the chance to just focus on yourself doesn’t come around often. Embrace it.
  9. The decisions you make now will affect your life later. Let’s say you don’t decide to choose yourself even though you know that you probably should. What’s going to happen later in life? Will you end up marrying someone because it was easy at the time but divorcing them at 40? Will you stay with a guy who’s toxic because you’re scared to be alone? Will you never take this time for yourself and jump into another relationship even though you feel like your last relationship broke you and you haven’t fully healed? Make sure you consider every option and remember that what you decide in the short-term will affect you more in the long-term.
  10. There’s no shame in just doing you. No one’s looking down you for not wanting to be with a guy or feeling sorry for you because you choose to be with yourself and not stuck in a dead-end relationship. In fact, they’re secretly admiring you. There’s nothing more inspirational than a sister who’s doing it for herself.
Katie Davies is a British freelance writer who has built a career creating lifestyle content that caters to the modern woman. When she's not sipping tea, shopping, or exploring a new city, you'll probably find her blogging about her fashion and travel adventures at https://trendytourist.co.uk.