The worst part about breaking up with a guy is wishing you could keep some of his best qualities and give them to the next guy that you let into your life. If only, right? If I could combine my exes, I would create the perfect guy — here’s what he would look like:
- A workaholic. The last guy I dated was obsessed with his work — so much that he pretty much chose his laptop over me. I don’t want a boyfriend who is such a workaholic that it impacts our relationship, but I do want someone who loves what they do as much as I do, with none of this lazy “I hate my job” crap that keeps coming up on recent dates.
- A romantic. My first love was the most romantic guy on the planet. He wrote “you’re so beautiful” on Starbucks cups when my head was turned and made even a normal subway ride magical. If I could make my next guy a romantic (and heart emojis don’t count), that would be great.
- A comedian. One guy was so hilarious I still remember his one-liners and our inside jokes, years and years later. A guy with a sense of humor is basically a necessity at this point. Life is hard enough, you should be able to laugh at yourself — and with the person that you give your heart to.
- A combo of ambitious and chill. Some of my exes are super ambitious and one of them is the chillest guy you could possibly find. It would be awesome to combine those two qualities because too much laser focus isn’t any fun, but being lazy is a total turn-off. Unfortunately, guys seem to be one or the other but never both.
- An open book. It’s an interesting experience when you date someone who won’t open up to you about his past or how he feels about anything, let alone you. But I’ve done that and I’m sure you have, too. Only one of my exes was an open book, and I wish I could magically give that quality to my future BF.
- An artist. Creative guys are super attractive, and dating another writer was an interesting experience (to say the least). It would be great if the next guy understood how much writing means to me because he felt that way too about some kind of artistic pursuit.
- A chaser. Okay, so loving the chase isn’t always a good thing, but it’s more attractive when a guy pursues you and makes his intentions clear. Every guy has done this so far. While I have no idea what my romantic future holds, this is one quality I’ll always hope for. At the very least, I want to know a guy is into me too — who knows what happens after that.