10 Things Your Couple Friends Won’t Tell You But You Need To Know

Being in a relationship is awesome, but if you feel like your couple friends are always living it up in paradise, think again. Even the happiest couples have their bad days. In fact, here are 10 things your couple friends might not always tell you.

  1. It’s not malicious when they set you up on dates. They aren’t desperate to help you find someone. They aren’t sickened by your single status, so don’t feel that dreaded feeling when your bestie says she’s got someone great for you to meet. They’re just so happy in their lives and crave a double date. Well, hopefully that’s the case!
  2. They’re totally lying about why the can’t hang. Ever invited your couple friends out for dinner only for your friend to blame her boyfriend for why they can’t attend? Maybe he’s down with the flu or he already made them plans. Hmm. Sometimes, this is what people in relationships do so that they can get out of invites. Sorry.
  3. They feel weird being the only taken ones in a group. So much is said about how the only single woman will feel bad in a group of taken women. But honestly, it works the other way around too. Sometimes it’s the only woman who’s in a relationship who feels like she’s a sore thumb when hanging with single friends.
  4. It’s not always easy for them to connect. It might seem like your bestie and her boyfriend are always together and happy, but it takes effort to make a strong relationship work. Behind the scenes, a lot of stuff is going on and they’re trying to remember to have date nights on the regular.
  5. They aren’t having hot sex every night. OK, maybe they are, but it’s not happening for all couples out there. If your couple friends have been in a long-term relationship for ages, they might not be having the same energetic and super-romantic sex that they did in the earlier stages of their relationship. That’s actually normal.
  6. They fight about money. Yeah, they’re in love but that doesn’t mean they’re not dealing with stressful (and boring) issues, such as fighting about money. A report conducted by Relate found that one in 10 couples fight about money once every two weeks. Yikes.
  7. They annoy each other. It’s only natural that when you’re in a LTR, sooner or later your partner is going to do something that pisses you off. It’s not easy to change your partner’s bad habits, and sometimes you’ll just have to deal with them, but your couple friends might not tell you how much it annoys them that their partner never picks up their socks or never dresses up. They might want to show the world on FB that they’re crazy in love. They just won’t share the crazy part as much as the love.
  8. Their partner doesn’t like you. The last thing your friend who’s in a relationship wants is for you to know that their partner doesn’t like you. Yeah, it hurts. But they don’t want to cause drama by telling you that their partner tries to avoid you. Imagine what this does to your friend who’s caught in the middle? It’s not easy.
  9. They don’t actually look like that in real life. Have you seen those picture-perfect couples on FB and IG? You know the ones: they wear cool shades and pose together looking madly in love. They’re always snapped at the hottest venues, with huge smiles on their faces. Yeah, can you say photoshopped? No one looks that fantastic all the time.
  10. They do envy you sometimes. While you might feel envious of their couple stuff, it’s good to bear in mind that sometimes your taken friends are actually envying you. Maybe they wish they’d made better use of their single time when they had it, or they wish they could be chilling with you at the pool instead of stuck with their partner’s annoying family at dinner. Although this doesn’t mean that they don’t want to be in a relationship, it’s only normal to peek over the fence sometimes and wonder if the grass is a tad greener.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.