Is He Crazy About You Or Leading You On? Here’s How To Tell

Is He Crazy About You Or Leading You On? Here’s How To Tell ©iStock/NKS_Imagery

Guys will act like they’re crazy about you to trick you into sleeping with them. Some of them don’t even want that much — they just want attention from as many different women as they can find. Here’s how to tell if he’s crazy about you or if he’s just leading you on:

  1. Does he get pissed off easily? If he flips out when you tell him you’re too busy to hang out this weekend, he only wants temporary attention. If he was crazy about you, he’d treat you with respect no matter what, because he wouldn’t mind waiting another week to see you.
  2. Does he always use the same lines? If he compares your eyes to the same ocean every time you speak, then he’s just leading you on with empty compliments. If he liked you, he’d have more than one line to make you feel beautiful.
  3. Does he act mushy in front of others? If he was crazy about you, he wouldn’t mind being called “whipped” by his friends. But if he’s only leading you on, he won’t want to make a scene in public.
  4. Do you see each other in person? If your conversations never go further than texting, then you’re being led on. If he wanted to date you, then he’d set up a time for you to meet face-to-face.
  5. Does he brag about you? If he was crazy about you, every family member would know your name and every social media platform would have your picture on it. If he hasn’t even told anyone about you, then you’re being led on.
  6. Does he follow through on what he says? Sure, it’s sweet for him to promise to take you to Disney and buy you diamond rings, but does he actually do those things? If he doesn’t, then he’s all talk.
  7. Is he already in a relationship? I don’t care if he swears he’s going to break up with her the next time he sees her. Unless he actually does it today, he’s just feeding you lies to keep you around.
  8. Does he answer all of your text messages? If he picks and chooses the days he pays attention to you, he’s just using you. If he was crazy about you, then he’d be initiating conversations and answering you as quickly as he could.
  9. How much has he told you about himself? If you can’t remember what he does for a living or how many siblings he has, then you two don’t talk often enough. If he liked you, he wouldn’t shut up around you, unless it was to listen to one of your stories.
  10. Does he put in as much effort as you do? You two are meant to be equals. If you’re the only one planning out dates and initiating conversations, then I’m sorry to say that he’s been leading you on.
  11. Have you slept with him yet? If you’ve seen him naked multiple times, but he still isn’t calling you his girlfriend, then he never will. He’s just with you for your body.
  12. Does he give you straight answers? If you ask him to see a concert with you, and he refuses to give you an answer, he’s leading you on. He just doesn’t want to let you know it by turning you down.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.