Creating A Dating “Schedule” Will Change Your Life

Thanks to the popularity and variety of dating apps, it feels like you never stop dating. It’s a 24/7 cycle of chatting, first dates and disappointment. But if you don’t figure out how you want to date, you’re going to feel overwhelmed AF. Here’s why you need to get into a dating routine:

  1. You have a schedule for the rest of your life, so why not dating? You plan out your work days because if you didn’t, you’d be lost and have no idea what to focus on. You make sure that you see your BFFs on a regular basis because if you didn’t, you’d never catch up. Since you have a schedule for the rest of your life, you should definitely do the same when it comes to dating. If you don’t set aside time to look for love, it honestly might never happen. Sure, you want to believe that your unicorn guy is going to fall from the sky, but what if he doesn’t?
  2. You have more time to date than you think. You have a busy life. Of course you do. But instead of telling yourself that you don’t have time to date, why not figure out when you do? If you have two nights a week that you could potentially go on dates, then schedule dates for those evenings. It doesn’t make sense to live a chaotic lifestyle where you feel you have zero time to date when that’s just not true.
  3. You don’t have to date all the time. If you like devoting Sunday afternoons to messaging guys and seeing if you connect with anyone, why not do that every week? You don’t have to date all the time. In fact, you totally shouldn’t. You’re just going to get burnt out and sick of the whole thing, and that’s not going to do you any favors. Once you get into the swing of things, you’ll see that finding dates really isn’t that bad.
  4. You won’t want to take so many dating breaks. When you swipe right and left and send out messages every single day, one thing is definitely going to happen—you’re going to feel miserable and fast. Dating is a marathon, not a race, and finding someone that you truly click with is not going to happen when you think. If you use dating apps every day of the week, you’re going to constantly take dating breaks since you just won’t want to keep doing it. That all changes once you get into a regular routine.
  5. You won’t feel ashamed when you do take a time out. No matter how much you want to be a strong, independent woman, you do want to find love. When you take a step back from dating because you come down with an epic cold or work gets crazy or you’re going on a beach vacation, you tend to feel guilty. You always feel like you should be doing everything within your power to find love. But if you get into a dating routine, you won’t feel bad about taking time away from it. You will realize that you have to focus on other parts of your life at certain times and that’s that.
  6. You want to make dating a habit. You’re sick of how long it’s taking to find love and that’s a totally natural reaction. You want to take action instead of feeling sorry for yourself, right? The only way that you can do that is to make dating a habit. Go on as many dates as you can on a regular basis, just like you eat a lot of vegetables and go to the gym. Those seemingly brutal first dates will get easier the more that you fit them into your life.
  7. You want to feel more in control. When you’re buried under work, what do you do? Ignore it and watch Netflix instead or make a game plan? It’s probably the latter. Since you want to feel more in control of your love life, getting into a routine will definitely do that for you, and it’ll be amazing.
  8. You will have an answer for nosy friends and relatives. Instead of rolling your eyes when your best friends ask if you’re seeing anyone, you can say that you’re actively dating and you’re sure that you’re going to find someone soon. They’ll be glad to hear it and you won’t have to get so annoyed.
  9. You’ll up your chances of finding love. This is what you want, isn’t it? To find a partner to share your life with and breathe that sigh of relief that you have found someone? If you don’t get serious about dating, that just might never happen. Going on dates on a regular basis means you will have a better shot at meeting the right guy.
  10. You’ll stop overthinking everything. You know that you stress over text messages and who asks who out on a second date. Everyone does. It’s pretty normal. Once you start going on more dates, you’ll realize that it’s pretty easy to listen to your gut and let your instincts guide you—and it’ll be pretty awesome.
  11. You’ll feel a sense of peace. It’s not easy to stay positive when you’re seriously single. You feel like everyone around you is finding relationships, no problem, and here you are, still swiping and hoping and dreaming. Finding your own dating routine will bring this sense of peace to your life. Once you realize that you are totally fine just the way that you are, you won’t hate the fact that you’re rolling solo. It’ll just be one fact of your life, and it really will be only a matter of time before you meet someone amazing.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.