I Cut These 14 Types Of People Out Of My Life & I’m So Much Happier

Life isn’t all that short—it’s long and I don’t want to spend the rest of my days with toxic people. That’s why I chose to cut these 14 personality types out of my life in order to feel freer and happier. Trust me, it’s worked wonders.

  1. People who are jealous of my accomplishments I know it’s natural to compare ourselves to others—we’re all guilty of doing that—but that doesn’t mean it’s OK to be so jealous of someone’s life that you actually root for them to fail. I had friends like that. They couldn’t even fake happiness for me when I succeeded even though I was always there to genuinely cheer them on.
  2. People who hold my past against me What I did five years ago shouldn’t be brought up now. Friends who can’t forgive are friends who’ll never let you forget. I know my past—I lived it and I don’t need to be constantly reminded of it.
  3. Arrogant people Arrogance is very different than confidence. I can deal with a confident person but I can’t handle an arrogant one. They intimidate me on purpose just so they can feel superior. It’s rude and unnecessary. I don’t want friends who want me to feel like crap.
  4. Incredibly toxic ex-partners I’m not talking about the ex-boyfriend I constantly go back and forth with—he’s OK (well, as OK as an ex can be). I’m talking about the ex before that ex who’s actually incredibly toxic. He’s manipulative, he’s a liar, he calls me names, and his existence in my life crippled me.
  5. People who are always negative I didn’t realize the kind of impact negative personalities had on me until I got rid of them. By no means am I an optimist and I totally understand people can’t be happy all of the time. However, my negative outlook on things definitely increased when I was around negative people. I stopped seeing the brighter side of things and that sucked.
  6. People who only want to party I’m past the point in my life where  I want to party all the time. I have nothing against my friends who go out every weekend but I do have a problem with people who try to convince me to do the same… and then get pissed when I want to stay in.
  7. People who are super sensitive I know everyone handles things differently but it’s really difficult to spend a ton of time with a hyper-sensitive person. Having to tiptoe around them and trying not to speak too freely or candidly is a struggle for me. I’ve come to realize that if someone is constantly offended by my words, they probably shouldn’t be in my life.
  8. People who want me to pick sides I’m the only one who should be choosing my friends. If someone has a problem with me hanging out with someone else, that’s their problem, not mine. I’m sick of people telling me who I can or can’t hang out with, especially when the reasons are so stupid and silly.
  9. People who are judgmental about my personality There are things about myself I know aren’t perfect but some of them are just part of who I am. My personality shouldn’t be judged by people who claim to be my friends. Having to hide who I am isn’t beneficial to me anymore.
  10. People who don’t make an effort to see me Everyone’s busy but everyone also makes time for things they deem important enough to make time for. I refuse to be the only one texting someone and trying to make plans. A friendship is a relationship—it shouldn’t be one-sided.
  11. People who agree with everything I say People who constantly agree with me aren’t my friends. They’re people who don’t really care to see me grow. If they did, they’d tell me when they disagreed with something I said. They’d provide me with a different perspective in order to help me succeed and challenge my mind. They wouldn’t sit nodding their heads up and down and letting me walk around thinking I’m always right.
  12. People with vastly opposing beliefs I want people in my life who disagree with me but I also can’t be bothered by people who disagree too much. I don’t want every conversation to turn into a fight. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that these people aren’t nice—I just don’t think we’re meant to be friends. If we were, not every conversation would feel like work.
  13. People who waste my time This type of person wants all of my attention but not because they want to bring something to my life. They want it for the sake of having it. Maybe it’s because they’re insecure or maybe because they’re obsessed with themselves. Whatever the reason, they do nothing but waste my time and energy and I’m over it.
  14. People who keep disappointing me I chose to cut people out of my life who kept disappointing me. I didn’t send a dramatic text or block their number or anything like that, I just distanced myself from them because there’s no reason I should continuously be disappointed. That’s just no way to live.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.