Daily Meditation Has Changed My Love Life In Ways I Could Have Never Imagined

I used to be super skeptical of meditation. Every time I would talk about my problems, some bozo would come up to me and suggest meditation without fail. It seemed almost too good to be true as a cure-all and frankly, it sounded really hard. I don’t know what came over me, but one day I decided to try it and since then, my love life has completely changed.

  1. I take the time to actually connect with my partner. Before I started meditating, my ability to connect with people wasn’t very strong. When I did get close with someone, I’d be simultaneously afraid of getting judged and it would kind of ruin the moment. Meditating has helped me plow through that fear and really start “feeling” the other person’s presence. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from my practice, it’s that we’re all one. Can I get an amen?
  2. My mood is more balanced throughout the day than it used to be. I no longer let my mind run on auto pilot because if I do, I’m probably gonna have the worst day ever. Meditating for about 10 minutes in the morning is a great reminder that I have more control over my feelings than I think. My relationships used to be rocky due to my mood swings, but nowadays they run a lot more smoothly.
  3. I don’t sweat the small stuff. I used to get all worked up if someone cut me off in traffic or plans with my boyfriend changed unexpectedly. You could say that my threshold to handle stress was pretty low. Once I started practicing mindfulness and meditation, I found that the things that used to stress me out no longer ruffled my feathers. I can handle the stress that’s thrown my way and my boyfriend really notices.
  4. I feel like I’m actually worthy of love. Taking time every day to actually stop and feel what’s going on inside without judgment was key to helping me realize that I’m worthy of love. I used to see myself as a second class citizen, an outcast, someone who’s the exception to the rule. I would assume that everyone else gets to have happy relationships and I was meant to be miserable in mine. Well, meditation has blown that assumption wide open. I’ve learned to appreciate who I am through observing my body—or for you spirit junkies out there, my energy body.
  5. It has taught me to let go more easily. I really like controlling things whether it’s making plans, a group conversation or a board game. I love being in charge but sometimes it stresses me out, especially when things are out of my hands. What meditation has taught me in regards to control is that sometimes, we just need to accept our situation. Accepting the moment is a huge relief to someone who’s constantly trying to control things. If my boyfriend isn’t being what I want him to be, instead of trying to fix him, I just try to accept him instead. See how much easier that is!?
  6. I look and feel more attractive. One thing meditation is great for is lowering adrenaline production in the body which can really age someone if it gets out of control. Stress is a huge factor in disease and I’ve been feeling that ever since I’ve started meditating, I don’t get sick as often and I also look and feel so much younger.
  7. Good things just seem to float towards me. I never realized how good my relationships could be if only I was in the zone more often. I’ve been finding that ever since I’ve been ohm-ing on a daily basis, my relationship just flows, if that makes sense. There are still the same hiccups, but they’re greatly outweighed by happier moments.
  8. It taught me to look on the positive side rather than the negative. I’m usually the first one to freak out and assume the worst in my relationships. If my partner isn’t home when he said he’d be or is acting suspicious, I assume he’s going to break up with me within the week. Nowadays, I’m luckily able to keep a much more level head about these kinds of situations thanks to good ol’ meditation.
  9. I feel more love for myself than I ever have. Everyone knows that the key to happiness in relationships is self-love and I feel like I’ve gotten more used to appreciating myself for who I am rather than judging myself for being less than perfect. I feel less dependent on my partner for love and attention because I’ve learned to give it to myself through meditating and focusing within.
  10. It’s helped me process fear surrounding relationships. One of the biggest differences I’ve noticed is that the things that I used to be so afraid of surrounding relationships have almost completely evaporated. I feel braver and able to take on tough situations, including conflict, with a lot more ease than I used to.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.