Damn Right My Single Status Defines Me—And I Love It!

I’m single, have been forever, and probably will be for the foreseeable future. People tell me it’s because I’m too selfish, and while that’s true to some extent, it’s mostly because I’m fabulous.

  1. Opinions don’t matter to me. People often ask me why I’m single. They’re either shocked or awed when I tell them I simply prefer it that way. I’ve never felt that I needed a man to complete me or take care of me. Some people take offense to that but oh well. If people don’t like me, I couldn’t care less. I don’t let other people’s opinions of me rule my actions or words. If you can’t handle that, move along.
  2. I’m fiercely independent. Everything I have, I’ve worked hard for. Everywhere I’ve been, I’ve busted my butt to get there. I don’t really like to share and that’s not very conducive to a healthy relationship. I’ve been single for so long that I don’t know how to share my life and I’m not sure I want to. I love my independence and I refuse to compromise on it.
  3. I do what I want when I want. It’s true. If I want to up and go to Rome, I go. If I want to see the latest exhibit at the museum, I’ll go see it. When I travel, I go as quickly or as slowly as I please. I don’t feel the need to do any of this with someone else. I refuse to miss out on these experiences because I may not have someone to share them with. I’m not afraid to go out on my own. This allows for an amazing freedom to do what I feel is best for me.
  4. I don’t have to take anyone’s wants or needs into consideration. My house is decorated the way I want it. It’s as clean as I want it. I buy whatever food I want. I have as many or as few people over as I want. I know all of this sounds very selfish, and it is, but I’m perfectly OK with this. Yes, there are people in my life I truly care for, but for the most part, I live my life the way I want without worrying about anyone else. I see so many people put themselves last, if at all, and they’re always so exhausted and miserable. Caring for others is not a crime but failing to care for yourself should be.
  5. I spend my money my way. I work hard for my money and I spend it how I see fit. I try to keep within my budget but when I don’t, there’s no one there to blame but me. I don’t have to worry about anyone else spending my money or worry about anyone lecturing me on how I should or shouldn’t spend my money.
  6. I have select few close friends. There are very few people on this planet I consider to be true friends. I get along just fine with most people, guys and gals alike. I can be personable and I’ll go to the occasional party, but in terms of true friends, I have three and that’s just the way I want it. Honestly, if I had any more it would stress me out. The fewer people I interact with the better.
  7. I’m stubborn as hell. I can be resistant to change. I may come around eventually, but it can take me days or months to come around to something new. A new job, a new layout, a last-minute travel change, a new person (especially)—I can be this immovable boulder and I’m sure it contributes to my current relationship status. I like things the way I have them and it can be difficult for me to see past my own blockers.
  8. I enjoy being alone. I love to be alone, actually. When I’m alone, I’m not lonely. My alone time is hugely important to me. I recharge my batteries. I don’t have to pretend like I care what people are talking about. I don’t have to contribute to the group. I can enjoy my books in peace. Sometimes I’ll just sit in silence and think or enjoy the sounds of nature. On the rare occasion I do want human interaction, I go to my favorite coffee shop or go out with my sister.
  9. My time is precious. Life is short. The people I choose to spend my time with are everything to me. If I allow you into my life, it’s because I want you there, not because I need you there. I have yet to find a man I’m willing to let into my life like this and I won’t hold my breath waiting for one.
  10. I’m unapologetically me. I’m brutally honest. I have little tact. I speak my mind. I wear what I want. I go where I want when I want. I have no patience for people that try to control me or others. I can be the friendliest person you’ve ever met or I can be the biggest jerk you’ve ever met. I’m me, I’m fabulous, and I’m damn proud of it.
Brittnee is a travel and lifestyle writer. She loves a good book and a cup of coffee by the windowsill on a cool crisp fall day. Check out her website at www.bardowlwriting.com for more info.