Date A Man Who Genuinely Respects Women — It’ll Blow Your Mind

It should be easier to find a good man who really appreciates a strong, independent woman, but sometimes it feels downright impossible. Even the seemingly decent ones can be totally clueless when it comes to how women should be treated — hint, hint — like equal human beings! If you do happen to find a guy who not only sees the value of women but loves and celebrates us, you should hold on tight.

  1. It’ll make you wonder why you’ve ever wasted time with other men. Don’t beat yourself up — you really didn’t know guys this great existed. How could you? You’ve been dealing with losers since you can remember. Now that you understand what you deserve, you’ll never go back. The man who treats you like the most important and fascinating person alive is the man you want.
  2. He’ll blow your mind on a daily basis. Because you aren’t used to being treated well, you’ll have a hard time believing he’s for real, especially at first. He seems sweet and genuine, but you’re so used to men playing games with you that you’ll be suspicious. Give him the benefit of the doubt — when he proves himself to be someone who will stick around and appreciate you, you’ll be glad you did.
  3. Gestures that never occur to other men come naturally to him. Most guys you’ve dated wouldn’t know a sweet gesture if it bit them in the ass. He performs them on a daily basis, with no pretense or need for validation. That’s just who he is. If you need help in any way, he’s there to offer it. He’s laidback, easygoing, considerate and caring all at the same time.
  4. He’ll make you feel amazing. You’ll love being around your feminist man because he constantly treats you like a precious treasure. He doesn’t put you on a pedestal — it’s even better. He simply adores and admires you for the flawed, lovely human being that you are. This is so much more valuable than a man who has a false idea that you’re perfect because you won’t disappoint him. He accepts you at face value.
  5. Everything he says and does is sexy AF. He makes you feel absolutely incredible, so you want to do the same back. Nothing’s hotter than a man who says what he means and openly, honestly adores you. Having a man who’s a little bit obsessed with you is the sexiest thing ever. You’re turned on by how much he respects you, and he’s absolutely fine with that.
  6. He truly thinks of women as equals, which makes you adore him even more. It doesn’t occur to him to treat a woman any differently from a man because he recognizes that everyone is on the same level. He would never objectify or demean a woman because he respects and values them so much. It’s against his entire nature. In fact, he calls out every man he sees who does. This is what makes him such a beautifully rare gem of a person.
  7. Because he respects all women, he’ll be the best boyfriend you ever have. This isn’t difficult to figure out. You never have to be jealous because he’s completely transparent with you and he would hate nothing more than to hurt you. He has female friends, of course, because he’s so good to women — but he’d much rather introduce you to all of them than create tension. He’ll always be considerate and sweet to you because he knows your worth.
  8. You can be completely yourself with him. You’ve never felt so instantly comfortable in your life. He’s nonjudgmental and he simply wants to know who you are as a person, no matter what that entails. He finds you beautiful and fascinating in your many intricacies, and he embraces and enjoys everything you say and do. It’s a lovely feeling when someone treats you this way, so you should keep him around.
  9. Every day feels like a romance. He freely offers forth the kind of behavior you could only have dreamed of from your past boyfriends. You used to treasure compliments from men because they were few and far between. Not so with your man who loves and appreciates women. He wants you to feel as good as possible when you’re around him, so he makes sure to tell you how he feels about you.
  10. You can trust him with your emotions and vulnerability. This guy would rather die than hurt you or make you feel small. He will always respect your feelings and ask that you share them with him rather than keeping silent. He understands the value of open, constant communication. He admires you as a strong and powerful woman and hates that there are men out there who treat girls like second-class humans. He will never do that to you.
  11. He won’t cheat on you. He cares about you as an individual. He’s attracted to you for who you are, not for the sum of your physical parts. Because he understands how to value people in their entirety, he won’t disrespect you. He’s also not selfish and wouldn’t put any of his own impulsive desires above your happiness and trust in him. He knows that a moment of indiscretion would cause him a lifetime of regret.
  12. He’ll be your best friend AND your lover. It’s the dream combination. He’s so good to you — and to all women — that you’ll never stop adoring him. You can talk to him about anything, but you’re also super attracted to him. If you find this rare relationship with a man, cherish it. The guy who loves and respects women as equals is becoming harder and harder to find. You’ll be so happy to finally find him that you’ll never let him go.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at