I’ve gone out with my fair share of jerks before, and at this point, I’m so over it. I can deal with just not being right for a particular guy, but this is why I’m going to lose my mind if one more dude decides to mess with my head while we’re in a relationship:
- I’m done with feeling insecure in a relationship. Relationships are supposed to make me feel good, not anxious. I want to know that a guy is really into me and that he’s committed. I can’t deal with feeling like crap because he’s so busy checking out other women or comparing them to me. I don’t need my confidence to be drained when I’m with someone who’s supposed to boost it.
- I have to be with someone I can trust. So many guys I’ve dated have betrayed me and given me trust issues. There’s nothing better than feeling that I’ve got a good guy who is totally open, honest, and trustworthy so I don’t have to feel I’ve got to watch my back all the time. I’m going to lose my mind if I get lied to or cheated on one more time.
- I don’t want to turn into a psycho. Nothing turns me more into a crazy person than when a jerk treats me badly or makes me question his fidelity. I don’t want to allow any relationship to turn me into a sinister version of myself, because then I look back on what happened and wish I’d just stayed single.
- Too many toxic guys have taken advantage of my kindness. Those guys who seem charming but then try to manipulate me are the bane of my existence. I try to be a good girlfriend, but when someone takes advantage of that, I can’t help but want to swear off men forever.
- I won’t compete with a phone for attention. I hate it when guys snub me with their phones. How many times have I sat in a restaurant with a guy I’m dating only to feel like I don’t matter to him because he’s so busy with his phone? This is such a classic sign of douchebag behavior, and I’m done dating guys who do it.
- I don’t want mixed messages. I’m not a freaking FBI investigator, and I don’t want to feel like I’ve got to crack the code of what my boyfriend is really trying to say. I refuse to struggle to try to put his actions and words together and figure out why they don’t match. It’s too much work.
- I don’t want to keep the relationship a secret. Why do so many guys I date try to keep our relationship from everyone they know? It’s so screwed up. I want the guy to introduce me as his GF and be proud of me. I feel like that’s not asking too much, but you’d never know that based on how some of these dudes behave.
- I can’t support him whole-heartedly and get nothing in return. Douchebags tend to be all about themselves. They want support, but then they don’t give it in return. It’s such garbage and a total waste of my resources and energy.
- I can’t cope with the fake gentlemen. Too many guys out there pretend to be Prince Charming when they’re really villains. I respect guys who are upfront about being jerks  much more than those who pretend not to be and then break my heart later.
- I can deal with lies, but what comes afterward destroys me. Being lied to in the past was bad enough, but the fallout is way worse. I end up feeling like every guy will eventually do this to me, like I can’t trust anyone no matter what they tell me. It sucks. I’m worthy of respect and love, and I won’t put up with anything less.
