Why You Should Date A Woman Who Won’t Put Up With Your BS

Why You Should Date A Woman Who Won’t Put Up With Your BS ©iStock/andresr

Strong, independent women aren’t going to put up with mediocre men who don’t know how to treat them. Our standards are a little bit higher, which means a guy actually has to work hard in order to keep us in their lives. Seems harsh, but it’s true. If you’re ready to put in the work, she’ll make you incredibly happy and push you to be a better man. Here’s why:

  1. She won’t accept your excuses. When you mess up, man up and admit what you did wrong. Don’t act like you’re a puppy who doesn’t understand that he made a mistake. We’ll respect you more if you tell us the real reason behind your actions instead of spitting out excuse after excuse.
  2. She’s over BS mind games. You should say what you mean and mean what you say. We’re not going to waste our time trying to decipher your words. We’re going to be blunt with you and we expect you to return the favor, even if the truth hurts.
  3. She expects you to treat her right. Other women might be okay with your one-word texts and the random days you go MIA, but we consider it unacceptable behavior. We expect you to give us the respect we deserve. Otherwise, you can go find someone with lower standards.
  4. Half measures will never be enough for her. You’re either “in” the relationship or you’re not. There’s no middle ground for us. If you’re going to treat us like a FWB or a side hoe, then you might as well leave, because we’re waiting for the real deal who will buy us flowers and pick up our tampons.
  5. She’ll push you to be the best version of yourself. We might come across as bossy, but we don’t actually want someone to bark orders at all the time. We want someone who is as independent as we are. If you have your own life, we’ll be able to respect you.
  6. You’ll learn how to deal with confrontation. We don’t like to fight, but we know that talking about our problems is the only way to keep our relationship strong. That means you can’t be afraid to talk about your feelings or start an argument with us when we’re acting ridiculous. We need you to be open with us, even if it means we’ll be angry at each other for a few hours.
  7. She expects you to think before you speak. We understand the concept of “word vomit,” but that’s no excuse for being sexist, homophobic, or racist. If you say something offensive, we might not forgive you, so think things through before you spit them out.
  8. You won’t be able to hide anything from her. If you try to hide something from us, we’ll eventually find out about it. When we do, we’re going to be more upset than angry, because healthy couples should be able to discuss everything and anything. If we find out you’re keeping secrets, we’ll start to wonder why we’re together at all.
  9. The sex will be off the charts if you play your cards right. Just because we’re naked, it doesn’t mean you’re allowed to treat us like a sex object. When we have sex with you, don’t make it all about yourself. Make us orgasm as many times as you’d like to orgasm, because we won’t tolerate selfish men.
  10. She won’t put up with your BS. We aren’t any better than you are. If we do something wrong, and we will, we expect you to call us out on it. We won’t take it when you treat us like crap, and you shouldn’t take it when we treat you like crap, either.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.