Dating A Virgo Woman: 10 Things You Should Know

The sixth sign of the zodiac, Virgo has a reputation for being independent and ambitious. Dating a Virgo woman means being with someone who will hold you to a high standard and expect the best, but she’ll also remember what you tell her and won’t rely on you to look after her. Here are 10 things you should know about dating a Virgo woman.

  1. Virgo women are self-sufficient. If you don’t like women who are clingy and too dependent, then you’re in luck. Virgo women are known for being independent and self-sufficient. They don’t like to rely on other people for anything, so don’t take it personally if you don’t feel as needed as you normally do when you’re with her. In fact, Virgo women often take on more than they can handle, and would rather stress themselves out than ask for help.
  2. They need everything to be perfect. Perfection is important to Virgos. A Virgo woman imagines her life a certain way and if it’s anything less than her original vision, she’ll feel disappointed. Because of this, it can feel difficult and frustrating to keep a Virgo woman happy. But the good news is she doesn’t rely on other people to make her happy and aims to achieve perfection through her own means. You might just have to be there to remind her that things won’t ever perfect and she needs to chill!
  3. They’re workaholics. Like the other Earth signs of the zodiac, Virgos are more often than not workaholics. They are very ambitious and their careers are important to them. So it’s important to give a Virgo woman space to do what she needs to career-wise. Especially in the early days of dating, don’t try to get in between a Virgo woman and her job because she’s likely to feel suffocated and overwhelmed. Her goals are important to her and she’s a hard-worker by nature, so the idea of being anything less than that might scare her.
  4. Virgo women can seem arrogant at first. Some signs are friendly from the minute you meet them, but Virgo is not one of them. Actually, Virgo women can come across as snobbish or arrogant until you really get to know them. During the first few dates, they might not be overly talkative or smiley. But that’s probably not because they’re judging you and thinking they’re better than you. More than likely, it’s because they tend to be shy and reserved and want to get to know someone before letting their true selves shine.
  5. They don’t always go with the flow of life. If you’ve written in your dating profile that you’re looking for a woman “who goes with the flow” or “doesn’t take herself too seriously”, a Virgo woman might not be your best match. Being chronic overthinkers and perfectionists, they don’t like to go with the flow. And they do take everything very seriously. In their minds, the stakes are always so high that they don’t want to relinquish control and just let life run its course. They’re also hard-workers, so it feels unnatural for them to sit back and let the universe sort it out for them.
  6. They value intelligence. When you’re trying to impress a Virgo lady, know that she can be hard to please. Expensive gifts, public displays of affection, and grand declarations of love don’t work on her like they might with other signs. Instead, a Virgo woman values intelligence. She loves it when people are witty, sharp and knowledgeable. Virgo women themselves are often intelligent. So it’s not a great match if they’re with someone who can’t hold their own around them.
  7. They’re good savers. Money habits and views on finances can make or break a couple’s suitability. When it comes to Virgo women, they’re bigger savers than they are spenders. They’re always planning for the future and moving with caution. So it’s naturally out of their comfort zone to spend frivolously, even if they’ve got the cash to spend. Remember, no one should be able to tell you what to do with your money. But it might unsettle a Virgo woman if she sees you spending like there’s no tomorrow without any savings plans.
  8. They have high standards. Virgo women tend to have high standards with just about everything. She holds all her dates to high standards. So you should really consider yourself lucky if you’ve even gotten past date one with a Virgo. There are a lot of things that she considers deal-breakers and would rather be alone than settle. Therefore, you must be pretty special! It’s hard to deal with a Virgo woman’s high standards, but know that she’s so critical of others because she’s even more critical of herself.
  9. They have a good memory. Don’t bother lying to a Virgo woman. In case you were wondering, yes, she noticed that thing you did. And yes, she remembers it. Virgo brains are constantly in overdrive, noticing every detail and processing it for later. But the good news is a Virgo woman won’t forget your birthday, your favorite food, or anything else you tell her.
  10. They’re overthinkers. Overthinking is a Virgo’s favorite pastime. She can’t help going over every detail and coming up with every possible future scenario. It can get annoying when you’re dating a Virgo for her to think too much into things and make mountains out of molehills. Since Virgos value honesty, let her know when she’s being overbearing and stressing herself out for no reason.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.