Dating An Alpha Male Could Be More Trouble Than It’s Worth

Dating An Alpha Male Could Be More Trouble Than It’s Worth ©iStock/PeopleImages

I’m guilty of being attracted to alpha males. Before I hit college, I always dated the nerdy, nice guys and was always pretty happy. Then I joined a sorority and was surrounded by the alpha male species and I haven’t been able to turn back since. Alpha males have a lot of qualities that appeal to an independent woman like me, but sometimes dating one just sucks — here’s why:

  1. They’re very stubborn. Part of the alpha male persona is making decisions and driving forward… even if no one else is on board. This kills compromise, and can make dating an alpha male exhausting at times.
  2. They’re always right… or so they think. A terrible partner to their stubbornness is their belief that they’re always right. Don’t expect a lot of wavering or mind changing, or for them to admit that they’re wrong when they are.
  3. They hate to show weakness. Alpha males don’t really believe in vulnerability, and think that showing any vulnerability makes them a pansy. It can be hard to get close to an alpha male for this reason, and sometimes it can seem like they aren’t even human.
  4. Emotions aren’t their thing. Kind of like weakness, alpha males don’t show emotions. They have them, of course, but showing emotions is another sign of weakness. If you’re the kind of girl who needs a soft, emotionally in-touch guy, an alpha male is probably the wrong choice for you.
  5. They don’t like other guys in your life. Male friends are not typically welcome when you’re with an alpha male. Its part of being the big dog, they like to be the only one. But strangely…
  6. They don’t get jealous. Although this would seem like a positive, their total lack of concern over other men can be off-putting. It’s nice that they know that they’re the only ones and they don’t see other guys as a threat, but sometimes it would be satisfying to know that another man’s affection for you rattled them, even just a little.
  7. They don’t like change. Alpha males are set in their ways and are dedicated to moving towards their goals. They don’t do well when they’re blown off course, and change doesn’t suit them. Dating is about change and adjustment, and they don’t do well with that.
  8. They don’t do well with crying. Since they don’t do well with their own emotions, you can just imagine how poorly they do with yours. Crying, in particular, is hard for them. Dating can be emotional, so dating a dude who doesn’t like your emotions or his can be tough.
  9. They don’t do things they don’t want to do. This is pretty self-explanatory. That party you want him to go to with you? If it’s not what he wants, it’s not going to happen.
  10. They’re painfully honest. Don’t expect him to placate you with lies about how good that dress looks if it doesn’t. He wants you to look amazing, so he isn’t being mean. Alpha males are just honest guys, sometimes to a fault.
  11. They’re not concerned with other people’s opinions. Although this is kind of badass, it can also make social situations awkward. Since alpha males have no f*cks to give about what anyone else thinks, sometimes they say and do things that can make others uncomfortable. If you are a people pleaser, rethink dating one of these guys.
  12. They don’t really understand women, at all. Alpha males are like those giant gorillas beating on their chests, or like cavemen. Understanding women is not on their list of strengths and they basically suck at it.
  13. They don’t fight fair. Since they’re always right, they don’t fight fairly at all. Don’t except any concessions or giving up. If you’re both alpha, good luck!
C. is an aspiring yogi and Ph.D student who loves her dogs, bright lipstick and to travel. Find her on IG @drparko121314