Having a boyfriend who’s a genuine person is always something to appreciate, but when you’re used to dating liars, players, and outright jerks, finding a guy who’s a sincerely decent human being and great partner is the best thing since sliced bread. Here are just some of the things that change when you’re finally dating a good guy.
- You don’t have to second guess everything he says. Manipulation and games aren’t his style and that feels more refreshing than anything in the world. Instead of wondering what he meant by what he said, analyzing what he’s thinking, and walking on eggshells on the time, you’re free to enjoy him and everything he’s brought into your life. It feels amazing.
- You can finally be yourself in all situations. You spent so long being a version of the girl you thought someone else wanted that you lost yourself in the process. Now, you can rediscover who you are and, with his support, be the best you can be. He’ll love you for where you’ve been, not in spite of it, and it will feel incredible.
- He actually listens when you talk. All guys can hear but not all guys can listen. He’s interested in your stories, pays attention to your feelings and your experiences and commits them to memory. This is the kind of guy who remembers the names of your family and friends, proving that if someone or something is important to you, they will be to him too.
- When you need to break down, he’s there. Real men will hold you when you cry instead of pushing you away when you get emotional. When you’re with a good guy, his heart hurts seeing you sad and he’ll do everything he can to make you feel better. He respects your space if you want to be alone but the minute you are ready for comfort, he’s there.
- You finally learn to trust again. In yourself, in him, in love and in the path you’ve chosen. Being safe enough to let him in, tell him your secrets and see that he isn’t going to run away restores in you the faith you lost when your innocence was taken away by so many toxic guys. It’s a wonderful gift.
- Everyone around you can see how happy he makes you. It’s impossible to fake the kind of genuine ease that comes in a good relationship. Instead of your friends warning you about your guy and suspiciously becoming busy every time you want to hang out as a group, they’re thrilled to spend time with you. Seeing you loved makes them happier than anything and just like you don’t, they don’t take him for granted.
- You don’t have to be jealous of other women. When you’re in a toxic relationship, wanting what other people have is the norm. With your own good guy, you no longer have to feel like you’re missing out because you’ve become what others aspire to find. All that matters is what’s happening in your relationship, no distractions necessary.
- Your insecurities begin to fade away one by one. All the things your ex disliked about you that he used to put you down, make you cower, or force you to give in start to slowly disappear. Your new guy appreciates every little thing about you and the imperfections you hate are the things he adores. He shows you that unlike what your ex made you think, nothing you need is asking too much.
- He reminds you every day that you’re good enough. He demonstrates this through his words and his actions, giving you a sense of security and love that you never imagined. He’s in awe of you in the moments you’re trying your hardest and also the ones that show your unconscious strength. With him, you always feel worthy.
- Slowly, your scars begin to heal. It takes a while for the broken pieces of your soul to fix themselves, but being with this man helps you get there. You’ll never be the person you were before your bad relationship, but that’s OK. It can be a part of your past without shaping your future. With him, you can more forward towards the life you always wanted for yourself.
- A relationship no longer means ownership. With him, you’re partners. You’re a human being who deserves the world, not an object that can be used and abused as he sees fit. What you have feels like something beautiful, not something forced, tainted, or toxic. Whatever you face, you face it together.
- You can be confident about the future. In life and in love, there are no guarantees, but with a good guy in your life, you can at least let yourself plan ahead knowing that you’ll be safe with him. Whatever happens, you’re better because you’re together, and your life will be forever changed now that you know what you deserve. Never again will you settle, and that means everything.
