11 Reasons Dating Is So Much Harder For Sensitive Women

11 Reasons Dating Is So Much Harder For Sensitive Women

When a man breaks up with us or stops answering our calls, it isn’t personal, but it’s impossible for some of us to come to terms with that. We need someone to blame. Anyone to blame. That’s why dating is so hard for women who take things personally.

  1. Closure is a necessity. Sometimes, relationships just don’t work out. But we can’t handle a guy walking away without knowing why. If he doesn’t give us an explanation, we’ll spend hours reliving memories to try to figure out where we went wrong.
  2. We need constant reassurance that we’re wanted. It doesn’t matter if we’ve been dating you for weeks or years. Either way, we still need you to tell us that you care. If you stop showing us affection, we’ll be worried that we’re annoying you, because we take all of your actions personally.
  3. We jump to conclusions. If you take a little too long to text us back, we’ll assume you hate us. If you forget to give us a kiss goodbye, we’ll assume you hate us. Little things that we shouldn’t even notice drive us nuts.
  4. We apologize for things we shouldn’t. To us, everything is our fault. I doesn’t matter if we’ve actually done something wrong, because we’re still going to feel the need to apologize. When we’re told to stop saying “sorry,” we’ll apologize for apologizing.
  5. Rejection takes its toll on us. Maybe we got turned down, because our crush was already in a relationship or because he wasn’t interested in dating at the moment. No matter what the real reason was, we’ll assume that it was because we’re not pretty enough, not smart enough, and not interesting enough. Rejection brings out all of our insecurities.
  6. We’re only happy when everyone is happy. It doesn’t matter if we’re on a group date with dozens of other people. If one person looks upset, we’ll consider it our fault, because it was our job to keep them entertained.
  7. Every word gets overanalyzed. When a man gives us a compliment, we’ll try to figure out exactly what it meant. We’ll do the same thing with text messages and casual conversations. We think that everything has an underlying meaning.
  8. We always assume we’re the problem. Even if it’s clear that we’re dating a douchebag, we’ll find a way to blame the situation on ourselves. We’ll think that he’s acting like such a jerk, because of something we did.
  9. We think everything is about us. If you’re being quiet, we’ll assume that you’re pissed at us. It’s not because we’re cocky and think the world revolves around us. It’s because we’re super self-conscious.
  10. We can be emotional. Even though we’re used to blaming ourselves for relationships that go wrong and calls that aren’t returned, it doesn’t mean we’re good at handling the situations. Crying isn’t a rare occurrence for us.
  11. We try way too hard. Whenever something goes wrong in life, we take it personally. That’s why we try as hard as we can to keep things on track. If our relationship remains healthy, then we won’t have to waste time trying to figure out what went wrong.
Holly is a science fiction and horror writer, who has recently been published by Flash Fiction Press, Infective Ink, and Popcorn Press. You can find more of her nonfiction articles on All Women Stalk, The Talko, and News Cult.