Opinion: Dating Your One-Night Stand Is A Terrible Idea

Opinion: Dating Your One-Night Stand Is A Terrible Idea ©iStock/KatarzynaBialasiewicz

You’ve probably had a one-night stand at one point or another — who hasn’t? Sometimes it feels good to have no strings attached sex without all the baggage that comes with being in a long-term relationship. It’s fine if both you and your hook-up are on the same page, but what if you suddenly want more? Turning your one-night stand into your boyfriend is a terrible idea, so don’t even go there.

  1. All respect goes out the window. There’s no reason to respect each other after giving yourself away so easily in one night. It’s not impossible, but it makes it a lot harder when you put yourself in that situation.
  2. Getting to know each other isn’t as special. When you meet someone new, you generally look forward to getting to know him before you sleep with him, which will bring you even closer together. Well, when you start dating your one-night stand, all the magic and curiosity is already gone. So now what?
  3. Just because you like having sex with him doesn’t mean you like himSince the start of you relationship was built on pure sex, it’s hard to build upon that and actually get to know who he is beyond the bedroom. If you manage to do that, there’s no guarantee that you’re going to like what you find.
  4. Trust issues are a given. It’s highly likely that becoming a couple with your one-night stand will come with trust issues. It doesn’t help to know that you gave yourselves so easily to each other. How can you be sure it won’t happen again?
  5. It probably won’t last long-term. Because the foundation was built on no strings attached sex, it’s possible that you won’t be able to sustain things long-term. It just doesn’t seem like the real deal, and maybe it isn’t.
  6. You have to make up how you met. Telling your friends how you met is basically a nightmare because you don’t want to be judged, so you end up either leaving out the details or completely making stuff up from scratch, which is annoying and you shouldn’t have to do.
  7. You end up regretting ever sleeping with him in the first place. You think you’re falling for him, and you wish you didn’t give in so easily because you didn’t realize you would end up wanting more. You gave him something that should have been cherished from the beginning, not thrown around like it was nothing.
  8. You’re afraid he won’t ever take you seriously. How can a couple ever truly take each other seriously when the initial meeting was so casual? There will just always be doubts, even if you really want to make things work.
  9. You wonder who else he’s done this with. If he was willing to do this with you, how do you know this hasn’t happened before? What if he doesn’t truly care about the people he spends time with, including you? While that’s likely not the case, the truth is, you never know, and it eats you up inside.
  10. You wonder if it was really ever meant to be. You’ll always wonder if this was something that was meant to be, or something that was forced. It will always be in the back of your mind, and who wants to be a part of a love story like that?
Bolde has been a source of dating and relationship advice for single women around the world since 2014. We combine scientific data, experiential wisdom, and personal anecdotes to provide help and encouragement to those frustrated by the journey to find love. Follow us on Instagram @bolde_media or on Facebook @BoldeMedia