Dear Future Husband — 10 Things Your Life Partner Should Know

Dear Future Husband — 10 Things Your Life Partner Should Know ©iStock/LindaYolanda

Some of us have already met our future husbands, and some of us are still waiting. Either way, it’s only a matter of time until we figure out who we’re going to walk down the aisle with. Until then, here’s a letter to our future husbands:

  1. We still need affection. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been married, we still need reassurance that you love us. Give us a kiss before you leave for work, pull us closer in the middle of the night, and try to get us to sleep with you in a random public place. Never stop showing us that you care.
  2. We married you for a reason. Despite what you may think, we didn’t marry you for the sparkling ring or the gorgeous dress. We married you, because we want to spend the rest of our lives with you. There was a time when we were terrified of love, so the fact that we made such a huge commitment to you should mean something. We wouldn’t do it for anyone else.
  3. We can walk away whenever we want. The divorce rates are higher than ever. If you mistreat us, then we still have the opportunity to walk away. We’re independent, which means we can survive life after divorce. So if you want to keep us around, you have to work just as hard as you did back when we were boyfriend and girlfriend.
  4. We still find you sexy. After a few years of marriage, we probably won’t have sex as often as we did during the honeymoon phase, but that doesn’t mean we’ve stopped finding you attractive. We still think you look amazing, even though you’re losing your hair and growing wrinkles.
  5. We want to make you happy. Even though we’ll occasionally piss you off, maybe even purposefully, we don’t mean to make your life miserable. Your happiness is as important as our happiness.
  6. We’re going to change. After we get married, things won’t be the same as they were when we first met. Even though we won’t go to as many wild parties as we did when we were younger, we’ll still have fun together. We just might do it in a new house with new sets of couple friends.
  7. We’re going to argue. We love you, but that isn’t going to stop us from picking fights with you. It’s impossible to go through marriage without occasionally wanting to murder each other. Of course, we’ll try our hardest to compromise with you, forgive you, and have steamy makeup sex with you.
  8. We consider your family our family. There was a time when we dreaded meeting your parents, but now they’re basically our parents, too. We might get annoyed by them, but we love them as much as we love our own families.
  9. Our pasts won’t disappear. We aren’t going to magically forget about our exes once we meet you. The men that broke our hearts will occasionally pop into our minds. It might even happen in the bedroom. Of course, that doesn’t mean we wish we could go back in time. We’re much happier with you than the man who ghosted on us years ago.
  10. We’ll always love you. We can’t predict the future, so there’s no telling what will happen in a few years. Of course, no matter what, we’re always going to love you. We know that you’ll always love us, too.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.