It can be hard to tell if this guy is finally “The One.” It’s only as a relationship progresses and you truly get to know him that you start having an inclination of whether he’s a keeper or not. People say that when you know, you just know, but there are also some tell-tale signs that a guy is NOT your forever person.
- He expects you to do all the chasing. Whether this is before you even go on your first date, when you’re in a committed relationship and living apart, or when you’re already married and have been living together for years, you should never have to do all the chasing with a guy. A bit of chasing perhaps? For sure. But you’ll know he’s husband material when you rarely have to chase him because he’ll be more than happy to come to you. #Winning
- He makes you pay towards every date. In fact, the right guy might not let you pay anything towards the majority of your dates because he’ll be kind and generous like that. Sisters, hear me—it wouldn’t be fair for him to pay for every date all the time, so you shouldn’t expect that. However, if he refuses to accept money from you quite a lot of the time, then that’s a sure-fire sign that he enjoys providing for you and taking care of you financially. Hello, hubby!
- He constantly leaves you hanging on where he is. The right guy will respect you and your relationship so much that he’ll make sure he keeps in touch at all times, even when you’re not physically together. Of course, I don’t mean that he’ll message you every single second of the day, but he’ll message you enough that you don’t have to wonder where the hell he is all the time. (Oh, men.)
- He makes you feel insecure. I realize that “never” is a strong word, as we all feel insecure sometimes, whether we’re dating someone or not. What I mean is that with your future husband, you’ll just know the strength of his feelings towards you because of the way he acts when he’s around you. You’ll never have to wonder or worry that he’s not as into you because he makes it so damn obvious how he feels. And that makes you feel good.
- He cheats or shows interest in other women. If he’s destined to be your hubs, there’ll be no question of his loyalty. When he’s on a boozy night out with his friends, you’ll never have to be crapping yourself that he’ll be unfaithful or do something that he shouldn’t. The bottom line is: he’ll think just as highly of you as you do of him and he’d never dream of jeopardizing that with a cheap thrill.
- He tries to change you. Whether it’s what you wear or how you act in front of his extended family and his Great Uncle Jimmy’s dog Bruiser, your future husband will never try to control you in any way. In fact, he’ll adore you just the way you are and never question your looks or behavior. That’s true love, for sure.
- He expects you to do all the domestic stuff. Even before you live together officially, your perfect guy will never expect you to do all the cooking and cleaning when you’re over at his house or he’s at yours. If he’s truly husband material then he’ll chip in and play his part, offering to help at every opportunity. And if he won’t let you help at all with the domestic stuff, snap that man up quick, ladies! He’s a rare breed.
- He lets arguments linger. Sure, he’ll make you angry and you’ll argue at times like every couple does, but “The One” will despise arguing with you and will actively try to make amends sooner rather than later. He won’t stay angry at you just for the sake of it, or leave you stewing for days just to punish you, he will be a man and accept the blame for his wrongdoings. And he won’t be afraid to apologize.
- He lets you give up on your dreams. Whether it’s for him or anyone else, guys who could be future hubbies realize that chasing your dreams is important and you shouldn’t have to give them up for anybody. He’ll always have your best interests at heart and be your biggest cheerleader because you’re everything to him.
- He breaks up with you. It might seem obvious, but if he’s husband material, he’ll never ever want to leave you. No matter how tough things might get at times, he’ll always want to work through it with you. He’ll love you just as much as you love him and realize that you’re a team, therefore couldn’t contemplate his life without you, just as you wouldn’t be able to contemplate life with him. In this case, prepare to be a wifey, my friend!