Definitive Proof That Women Handle Breakups Better Than Men

Definitive Proof That Women Handle Breakups Better Than Men

The stereotypical image of women after a break up is a blubbering mess who can barely get out of bed unless it’s to eat all the junk food in sight and cyber stalk her ex. While we can probably all relate to that to some extent, women are actually a lot better at handling a break up in the long run than men are. There are even studies to prove it. A breakup is never easy, no matter how it goes down, and our advantage might actually be in our ability to admit that. So, we might get a little emotional – who said there’s anything wrong with that? Guys could probably learn a thing or two from us about how to process a breakup in the healthiest way possible.

  1. We don’t hold our feelings inside. As old-fashioned as it is, it’s generally more accepted for women to be emotional and let it show. Men are expected to be the strong, silent types who pretend they don’t give a damn. We all know that a bad breakup can be just as hard on a guy as it is on a girl, but the difference is, we don’t let those feelings fester – we actually get them out in the open and deal with them.
  2. We’re more comfortable leaning on our friends. To guys, the cure for a broken heart is to drink a bunch of beer, spend some money at a strip club, and shut up about it. Women can actually talk through their feelings, and let themselves appear vulnerable without the fear of being judged.
  3. We’ll take time off if we need it. If we need a day or two to pull ourselves together, we aren’t afraid to call in sick. Mental health days are completely justified, and we aren’t afraid to admit when we need one.
  4. Emotional well-being is a priority for us. We know that being emotionally stable is an important part of overall health, and we aren’t going to let suppressed feelings turn into something more serious. Guys would rather sweep their feelings under the rug and pretend they don’t exist than let them affect their day to day life.
  5. Women are realizing more and more that being single can be awesome. Sometimes the end of a relationship can be the start of something a lot better. A lot of women are more comfortable being on their own, and a break up doesn’t have to be the end of the world.
  6. Men have fewer serious relationships. When a guy decides to take the plunge into a serious relationship, he means business. So when it doesn’t work out, it’s a bigger blow than for a woman who has had plenty of relationships and knows there’ll be more in her future.
  7. Men are more prone to self-destructive behaviors after a breakup. Men are more likely to turn to unhealthy vices like alcohol and drugs right after a breakup because they need a little help burying their feelings. Women, on the other hand, turn their attention to looking better than ever, just in case they have the chance to show their ex what he’s missing.
  8. Men have the added stress of having to “compete” again. Since men are the pursuers, you could say that getting back in the dating game takes a lot more effort on their part. All women have to do is leave the house and their odds are already better than a man who is actually putting in work to get a date.
  9. Men hold a grudge. Not that women aren’t capable of holding one too, but for men it’s a lot easier to place all the blame on someone else and never admit their own faults. It’s a lot harder to move on when you can’t let go of the past.
  10. Men tend to get into a routine where they rely on their girlfriend for everyday things. Women are good at the little things, and men are good at letting women take care of the little things. A guy who is set in his routine is going to have a hard time going back to doing everything himself, while a woman already did a lot of it anyway, so she’ll be just fine.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, Complex.ca and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo