There’s A Difference Between Wanting A Guy & Needing Him

While it might not be ideal sometimes, being single isn’t the worst thing that could happen to you these days. We’re all focusing on what we want out of life beyond a relationship a little more, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t also looking forward to the day we find love — there’s just no reason to rush it.

Of course, not everyone likes being single. If you really stop and think about it, would you say you’re fine without having a guy in your life, or are you constantly on the prowl, so much so that you’re willing to settle just so you don’t have to be alone? Needing and guy and wanting one isn’t the same thing, and it’s important that you know the difference.

1. Girls who need a guy are never single for long, but girls who want a guy go through phases where they’re perfectly happy with being alone (and even prefer it).

2. A girl who needs a guy will start looking for someone new the second her relationship starts going down the tube, but she’ll never dump a guy unless she has someone else on deck. A girl who wants a guy is fine with the single transition between guys. She needs time to recharge before she goes looking for her next relationship.

3. Girls who need a guy will date just about anyone, but a girl who wants a guy only wants one who makes her feel a certain way. She may want to find love, but not so badly that she’ll settle for less than she deserves.

4. Girls who need a guy will make excuses and rationalize a guy’s bad behavior, but a girl who wants a guy won’t put up with being treated poorly. She’d rather continue her search than waste her time on a loser who will never change.

5. Girls who need a guy make empty threats and give guys ultimatums that they have no intention of following through on. A girl who wants a guy knows what she wants and if a guy isn’t giving it to her, she won’t try to change him, she’ll just move on.

6. A girl who needs a guy will disappear when she’s in a relationship. But a girl who wants a guy will make sure she makes time for her friends and her own hobbies in addition to a relationship. She knows she can’t make her entire like about her boyfriend.

7. A girl who needs a guy probably doesn’t prioritize her career, because she thinks she can always rely on a guy to support her. A girl who wants a guy knows how to balance a career and a relationship, and she has no plans to give up her job for a guy, ever.

8. Girls who need a guy give up off a desperate vibe that leads to her coming on way too strong and driving the guys away, but a girl who wants a guy is confident enough to let him come to her.

9. To a girl who needs a guy, they are probably a dime a dozen. She has no problem attracting them— it’s keeping them that’s the problem. But the girl who wants a guy knows when she’s found something special and will do what it takes to hold on to it.

10. A girl who needs a guy won’t bother learning certain things like how to change a tire or how to BBQ the perfect steak, because she assumes she’ll always have a guy around to do those things. A girl who wants a guy is independent in every way. She wants a companion, not someone who will do things for her.

By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.
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