Does He Deserve You? 14 Things A Worthy Guy Does

The guys who know how to text you back, love your flaws, and treat you with respect are the worthy ones, but there aren’t too many of them out there. Are you dating someone who treats you like a human being and not a play toy? Here’s how you know for sure.

  1. He spends real, quality time with you. This should go without saying but I’m going to say it anyway: a worthy guy will spend time with you and only you. Not you and his buddies. Not you and his work friends. Not you and the television. He’ll make time for you on the reg, regardless if he’s in medical school or an experienced Uber driver.
  2. He leaves his ego behind. A worthy guy is confident but he’s not cocky. He knows how to leave his ego behind, so he’s always accountable for his actions. He apologizes when he’s wrong and he listens to criticism without getting upset.
  3. He loves your flaws. He accepts everything about you, even the parts you’d rather he didn’t know, like how much you talk to yourself and how you overthink the simplest of things. You hate these flaws, but they’re why he loves you.
  4. He pleases you in bed. He might not make you “ooh” every time you have sex, but he pleases you in different ways. He touches the way you like and he whispers in your ear. He uses emotions to make you feel loved and treasured in bed… even if you don’t finish.
  5. He speaks positively about you. He doesn’t speak badly behind your back or to your face. Even if he’s complaining—let’s be real, we all know our boyfriends complain about us—he uses respectful language. You can tell a lot about a guy from what he says when he’s angry. A worthy guy will never curse you out even if he’s really, really pissed.
  6. He treats you like an equal. He sees you as his equal—you’re no better or worse than him. That’s why he doesn’t berate you for making a mistake. He knows you’re not perfect and he doesn’t expect you to be.
  7. He keeps it fun. Dating is always fun in the beginning but it can get boring quick. A worthy guy will keep things fresh and entertaining even if that means brainstorming fun date ideas and trying new things. He won’t let you two fall into the typical “relationship rut.”
  8. He respects your boundaries. Remember that guy you dated who refused to listen and never asked your opinion on anything? He wasn’t worthy, but this one might be. Does he pay attention to your emotions, give you space when you need it, and stop doing something when you tell him to? Sounds like he’s respectful of your boundaries.
  9. He has nice friends. If he’s worthy, he’s not spending time with arrogant dudes who only want to get drunk and take advantage of women. His friends are nice. I’m not saying they’re the ideal group of guys, but they’re respectful and real—the kind of friends you’d want to win over. 
  10. He doesn’t try to control you. A worthy guy doesn’t feel the need to control you. He doesn’t send hundreds of texts when you’re out with your friends and he doesn’t hold you back from reaching your potential. He trusts you and he’s not threatened by your other interests.
  11. He keeps you in the loop. You always know what’s going on in his life and vice versa. It’s not because he’s obsessed with you, it’s because he’s worthy. You’re a priority to him. That’s why he updates you throughout the day and runs his plans by you first.
  12. He’s proud to be with you. He feels more confident when you’re next to him and he brags about you to anyone who’ll listen. He loves talking about your accomplishments, your smile, and the quirky little things you do. He knows you’re a catch and he feels lucky to be with you.
  13. He makes you comfortable. How we feel about ourselves comes from within, but a worthy guy makes it easier to feel comfortable. He doesn’t lie, go out of his way to hurt you, or make you feel insecure on purpose. In fact, just the opposite. He does whatever he can to make you feel comfortable in the relationship—and with yourself.
  14. He’s fully committed to you. There’s no ring on your finger (yet) but that doesn’t mean he’s not committed. You know he’s planning a life with you in mind. He talks about it all the time! It’s clear he’s not entertaining other options, which is why you don’t feel rushed to get engaged. You know it’ll happen sooner than later.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.