Does He Want a Serious Relationship? 12 Signs He Really Wants To Be With You

If you’ve been dating someone for a while, you might be wondering whether it’s going anywhere special. Is this just another short-lived fling or are you heading for a real relationship? While you could have the “where are we going” talk to find out for sure, you can also get a good idea from several signs that he or she might be subtly sending out.

  1. He makes you a priority. If he really wants to be with you, he’ll make you a priority. Even if he’s working a lot or has other things on, he’ll make time to see you. He’ll make time to respond to your messages. You’ll be important to him and he will act like it.
  2. He cares how you feel. You actually matter to him, so he’ll actually care how you feel if he wants a serious relationship with you. If something is bothering you, he’ll want to know about it. He won’t be okay knowing you’re not okay. Even when it comes down to the smallest things like choosing a place to take you on a date, he’ll want you to have a good time.
  3. He tells you how he feels. Two people in a healthy relationship communicate their feelings to one another. So along with caring how you feel, he’ll also be more inclined to share how he feels. He’ll open up to you and have deeper conversations with you that go way beyond just flirting and witty banter.
  4. When you need help, he’s there. Since you’re important to him and he wants to be with you, he’ll also be there for you when you need help. He might not be able to help you with every single situation, but he’ll do what he can to make a difference. And if he can’t do anything to help in a particular situation, he’ll still be there for you to lean on.
  5. He doesn’t hide things from you. Honesty is a big sign to look out for. If he wants to get serious with you, he’ll be honest with you. Of course, people can still lie when they get into serious relationships, but generally, he should want to start things off on the right foot by telling the truth. He’ll share the different parts of his life with you because he wants you to become part of his life.
  6. He doesn’t confuse you with mixed messages. Mixed messages don’t really happen when a guy is serious about being with you. You’ll have a good idea of how he feels from his words and his actions. And you won’t have to filter through confusing behavior trying to work out where he actually stands. His actions and his words will align, and they will clearly show that he wants you.
  7. He wants to meet your people. When he wants a serious relationship with you, he’ll want to join your life together with his. That includes getting to know the people in your life since they’ll also be relevant to him when you get together. And by the same token, he’ll typically want you to start meeting his family and friends.
  8. He doesn’t judge you. When you’re with someone who is serious about you, you will feel a sense of safety and security. He will accept you for who you are and won’t make you feel like you need to alter yourself or hide anything. He won’t judge you for your flaws and demand that you make unrealistic changes to make him happy. If he’s decided that he wants a relationship with you, then he already accepts you. And you deserve nothing less.
  9. He discusses the future with you. It’s a clear sign that he wants a real relationship with you if he discusses the future with you. He’ll want to know what your plans are for the future to see if they match his. And he might even make suggestions about a future together. It’s a red flag, by comparison, if he doesn’t care what your plans are for the future. If he’s thinking about your future, it makes sense that he’s picturing himself in it.
  10. He doesn’t leave you waiting days for a response. No matter how busy he is, he won’t leave you waiting for days to get back to you if he’s serious about you. Just like you wouldn’t leave someone hanging if they were important to you. The fact that he always makes an effort to chat with you and keep the conversation flowing shows that he respects you and enjoys having you in his life.
  11. Seeing you is important to him. You might do most of your talking over text to begin with. But if he wants to have a serious relationship with you, then sooner or later he’s going to want to see you more often. Most couples see each other frequently, so it’s normal for him to want to develop that kind of relationship with you.
  12. It feels easy. You know how dating some people just feels like hard work? If he is serious about being with you for the long term, it’s likely to feel easy. Why? He’ll make it easy. You’ll be a priority so he’ll make himself available to see you. If there’s a problem between you, he’ll want to work it out because your happiness is important to him. And if you feel the same, then you’ll also naturally make it as easy as possible. Together, you’ll both do what you have to do to make the relationship work.


Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.