Does He Want To Date You Or Just Sleep With You? This Is How To Tell

Some guys will do anything to get laid. They’ll and do exactly what you want (or what they THINK you want) until they’ve gotten you into bed, and suddenly everything changes. It’s the worst. If you want to avoid being duped by a sex-hungry dude, watch out for these red flags:

He’s trying to move everything at a faster pace.

He’s super into hanging out with you all the time, especially late at night. The operative phrase here is “hanging out.” He’s not taking you on dates. He’s not interested in taking it slow and learning about you. He’s interested in logging as much face time as possible because he figures that’ll lead to getting you in the sack faster. Every time you chill is another opportunity for him to push the envelope.

He isn’t interested in taking you out and being creative.

He puts no thought into your time together. It’s all Netflix and chill, maybe going out for drinks and a snack if you’re lucky. There are no adventures, no surprises, no thoughtful custom-planned outings. He doesn’t care about intriguing you or sharing memorable experiences. He cares about getting into your pants as soon as he can. If he’s not putting in any effort, that’s a huge warning sign.

He doesn’t learn anything about you.

This is a telling sign you really shouldn’t ignore. If he’s completely self-absorbed and all he does is spout off crap about himself, his problems, and his own life, get the hell out of there. Not only is this rude, it’s boring. He doesn’t take any time to learn about you because he frankly doesn’t care. Don’t make excuses for this behavior or look the other way. Don’t fool yourself. He’s in this for one thing and one thing only.

He’d rather make out than talk.

Yeah, making out is great and all, but wouldn’t you rather not jump straight into that? If he doesn’t talk to you, he’s not invested in you. It’s quite simple. Obviously he’s attracted to you and that’s wonderful if that’s all you want. It’s great that he’s attracted to your outside, but you need to make sure he’s attracted to your inside before you go any further.

Even if he does take you out, it’s a means to an end.

Some guys will take another approach, which is impressing you into bed with them. This one will wine and dine you, take you to fancy restaurants, and always pay. That’s obviously nicer than dealing with some cheapskate who wants to have sex with you after a Burger King date, but don’t trick yourself into thinking that he values you anymore. He’s still an egomaniac who doesn’t give a damn about your feelings. He’s basically trying to buy you, which is pretty gross. You’re better than that.

He forgets everything you tell him.

It’s not because he’s absent-minded, it’s because he was never listening in the first place. Even if you do manage to get a word in edgewise around his running self-focused monologue, he doesn’t hear it. He’s too busy thinking about himself — constantly. You aren’t even on his radar as a priority, so he doesn’t take the time to absorb what you say. It’s not cool, and quite frankly, unacceptable in anyone with whom you share your time.

He only wants to hang out at night, on short notice.

This, dear ladies, is a booty call. You know it. Everyone knows it. He’s not too busy to get hold of you sooner and plan an actual date. It’s an insult and a slight to your value as a human being. Unless you really don’t give a damn and really want to get laid no matter what the circumstances, please don’t bend to this behavior. Men keep doing it because women keep letting them get away with it. It’s so below your worth.

He takes no interest in what you’re doing with your life.

What does he care? This is just about sex to him. You’re a conquest there for the taking, and learning about who you are as a person would only interfere with that mission. He doesn’t plan on being in your future, so he doesn’t really care what you’re going to do with it. He’s all about the here and now and what he can get from you as quickly as possible. If his eyes glaze over when you begin talking about your own interests and passions, that’s a sure sign he’s only in it for some ass.

He actually attempts to Netflix and chill, like you don’t know what’s going on.

Ladies, you aren’t dumb. Most of the time you know exactly what’s going on when he tries to act slick. Most guys just aren’t that smooth. Sorry. It’s up to you whether you decide to just go with it or call him out on his BS. If you aren’t looking for a casual hookup, don’t waste your time with the lame guy who invites you over to sit on his couch and grope. You aren’t in high school anymore. Tell him to stop acting like you are.

Once you have sex, his attention wanes considerably.

He’s gotten what he wants. He may want to continue, or he may be content to have just had you once and go on his way. Now he doesn’t feel like he has to try at all, so he doesn’t. He figures you’ve done it once, you’ll do it again without him attempting to make it worth your while. Hopefully it was at least good, because a roll in the hay is all you’re gonna get out of him. If he loses all interest once you’ve given it up, that’s how you know you never should’ve done it. Too late now, but you can reclaim your dignity by kicking him to the curb straightaway.

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