Does my ex want me back? When a former partner wants to rekindle the relationship, he’ll very rarely come out and say it. Most of the time, he’ll try to play it cool while leaving subtle hints that he’s keen to get back together. Being able to recognize those hints will help you to know what your ex is really thinking. Here are the signs that he’s ready to give it another try.
- He tries to see you often. Some believe it’s unusual for two exes to remain friends. While being friends with an ex isn’t automatically a bad thing, it can suggest that one of the exes wishes that they had their partner back. If he’s always trying to catch up with you, it could be because he’s trying to get closer to you. His ultimate goal would be to get back together, and seeing you often will help him to get there.
- He brings you up around mutual friends. We tend to divulge our deepest secrets to our friends. When an ex is always checking in with mutual friends to find out how you are, it may mean that he wants you back. While this could also just be a sign of kindness, Bustle explains that it’s usually a sign that he’s interested in getting you back. He might be trying to suss out whether you have moved on or whether you’ve said anything about him.
- He’s always talking about your shared memories. Memories can make things greater than they were. And two exes reminiscing can cause them to forget why they broke up and try to get back together. At the very least, if your ex is always bringing up the past, it shows that he holds those memories dear to his heart. The most likely scenario is that he’s trying to get the chemistry flowing between you again by taking you back to the good times.
- He acts jealous when you move on. Naturally, if your ex wants you back, he’ll feel jealous when you move on. He’ll see anyone you start to date as standing in the way of him getting you back. Exes can also be petty about moving on even when they don’t have any feelings left. But if he acts extremely jealous, it suggests that he wants you back.
- He tries to make you jealous. Similarly, an ex who wants you back may try to make you feel jealous. He might dangle new love interests in your face or show you how happy he is to have moved on. Does he seem hell-bent on proving to you that he’s fine without you? This could be his way of trying to entice you to chase him. He may be trying to show you what you lost, hoping you’ll regret the breakup and ask for him back.
- He asks about your love life. After enough time has passed, two exes might ask about each other’s love lives without any agenda whatsoever. But if it’s still soon after the breakup, or you have other reasons to be suspicious, this question could also show that he still has feelings for you. It may be that he’s trying to see if you’re still available before making his move.
- He still keeps up with your social media. As per the no-contact rule, many exes delete and unfollow each other when it comes to social media. If he is adamant about staying friends with you online, it could be because he doesn’t believe in the no-contact rule. And if he is still regularly interacting with you, messaging you and commenting on your posts, it is possibly a sign that he wants you back. He may feel that interacting with you online is a more subtle approach to messaging you directly.
- He sends you cryptic messages on social media. Insider explains that when an ex wants you back, they may take to posting cryptic messages on their social media. Often, they’ll post pictures and messages that only you will understand, even though they’re available to the public. For example, they might post a picture of the place you went for your first date and hashtag it #thebestmemories.
- He keeps you up to date with his life. When an ex wants you back, he’s likely to keep you up to date with his life. He’ll probably share details with you and open up to you, as that will continue to build or repair the bond between you. Whether or not you ask, he’ll tell you what’s going on with him. This constant sharing can put you in a tricky position. If you don’t want him back, you might feel guilty about dismissing him, as you might not want to be seen as being “petty”. This makes it easy for him to talk to you and try to build the intimacy back up.
