Does He Want To Date You Or Just Sleep With You?

It’s not always easy to tell if a guy is really into you or just into having sex with you. A lot of men will pour on the charm to keep you around as a consistent booty call without ever taking things to the next level. If he’s doing these things to you, don’t get your hopes up for a relationship with him now or ever.

1. He only compliments you on how you look. How often does the guy tell you that you look sexy in your outfit, or that you have the most gorgeous lips/legs/chest? If he only compliments you on your body but never your intelligence or personality, he’s only got one thing on his mind.
2. He turns every chat into a sexual one. You try to engage in a conversation with him about politics, careers, or even the weather, and soon he’s flirting or being sexual. It’s clear he’s not interested in having a real chat because he’s only interested in one thing: having sex with you.
3. He sends you pictures of his junk. Why would a guy need to send you pictures of his junk when you’ve only gone out twice? The guy’s obviously desperate to show you his goods in the hope of seeing you naked — via text and in real life. A guy who wants a real relationship with you will pace himself and try to make the best impression he can so that you don’t get put off.
4. He never invites you to sleep over. You might hang out at his place, but he always has an excuse for why you have to go home. Maybe he’s got an early office meeting the next day or he’s got work to do. Gee, he didn’t mind you being in his bed five minutes ago. Clearly he’s not keen on spending more time than necessary to get his sexual pleasure.
5. Dates always end up in the sack. He never asks you out to dinner or a movie — he’s always inviting you to a place known as His Bedroom, which is a five-star disappointment. Sure, the sex might be good, but you never actually have any dates. This guy is pretty much a friend with benefits, and he’s not even a good friend.
6. He says he doesn’t believe in love. He tells you this during a casual chat, and you think he’s just being silly or you’ll change him. No! Listen to what he says because he’s basically saying, “Love isn’t happening for us.” Don’t stick around and waste your time hoping that a sex session will turn into a sustainable relationship.
7. He doesn’t care about your life. A guy who’s interested in being your boyfriend will ask about your day, your work, your family, your friends, even how your sick pet is doing. If he doesn’t do this, he’s not showing any interest in what you’re about. He’s willing to undress your body, but not your soul.
8. He doesn’t engage in lots of communication. Some guys don’t like to text or call, but come on — they’ll find other ways to engage in interesting conversation with you, even if it’s via email. If he’s always answering with one-word texts to your messages or ignoring your calls for days, he’s not looking for anything more than a roll in the sheets.
9. He hasn’t upgraded from texting to calling. He will choose the mode of communication he enjoys best, but be warned: your communication shouldn’t stay there if he’s interested in dating you. He’ll want more. It won’t be enough to send each other texts, he’ll want to phone you so he can hear your voice. There should be progress if he’s serious about you.
10. He has bad things to say about his friends’ relationships. He seems to mock his male friends who are in serious relationships, or perhaps he always has something negative to say about his friends’ partners. It’s a bad sign if he does this because it could mean that he’s not looking for anything serious.
11. He’s not available on weekends. He always invites you to his place on a Thursday night, but then he’s “too busy” to see you on the weekend? This guy’s just keen to have sex when it’s convenient. He should be including you in his spare time if he sees a future with you.
12. He doesn’t communicate consistently. A guy who’s into you will be consistent in how he communicates so you can rely on him getting in touch. A guy who’s only keen on a hookup, however, will be random. He’ll text when he’s lonely, but then ignore you for days at a time.
13. He’s a generic conversationalist. When you ask him about himself, he doesn’t give you anything substantial. He keeps things generic and bland. He’s only interested in impersonal sex, not a real commitment. If you feel a bit drained during a conversation because it’s such a struggle to get him to talk, that’s your sign to run.
14. He doesn’t plan ahead. Don’t buy his excuse that he never plans ahead for anything. If he likes you, he’ll want to plan a future with you. That means he’ll be able to book you in for a romantic date at least two days ahead of time. If he can’t do that, he’s not “sexy and spontaneous” — he’s a booty call.