He Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect, But My Soulmate Must Have These 10 Qualities

He Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect, But My Soulmate Must Have These 10 Qualities ©iStock/SandraKavas

Single women are told all too often that we’re being too picky. Fortunately, we’re smart enough to know that’s BS. We aren’t expecting someone absolutely perfect; our expectations and deal breakers are legitimate. Here are 10 perfectly reasonable qualities that my soulmate must have:

  1. He has to be responsible. As a grown adult, I don’t want to feel like I have to babysit my significant other. Actually, I’m pretty sure nobody wants that. He has to be responsible for himself and able to function as half of a fully equal couple; no exceptions.
  2. He has to be driven. He doesn’t have to be rich or have a super important job to impress me; he just has to have some kind of dream for his life and be driven to achieve it. There’s nothing worse than being with someone who’s completely apathetic when it comes to his own success.
  3. He must be romantic. It’s baffling, but some guys actually think a relationship can work without romance. They don’t stand a chance with me or any other strong woman; we know we deserve real effort and attention.
  4. He needs to be a little bit laid back too. Yes, a truly well-rounded person is responsible, driven, and laid back. He should be responsible and motivated when necessary, but also able to kick back and relax when the opportunity presents itself. I (like any other sane person) like to relax in the evening and on weekends, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong or lazy about that.
  5. He has to be adventurous. Adventure comes in many forms, and I like them all: travel, food, drinks, and even just thinking outside the box. Anyone who’s boring or completely inhibited won’t hold my interest long; my soulmate also has to be my “partner in crime” who wants to share all of my adventures.
  6. He has to be clean/a bit domestic. Like many woman, I couldn’t possibly live with a slob because messes give me intense anxiety. My soulmate has to appreciate a clean home and also help to maintain it.
  7. He has to be politically-minded but not too conservative. The way the world keeps changing, it’s completely necessary to care about politics and encourage progress. The extreme right wing doesn’t tend to value progress at all, and I have to be with someone whose values are similar to mine.
  8. He has to have a sense of humor. Someone who can make me laugh definitely has the opportunity to win me over. After all, laughter is the best medicine and my soulmate has to have that remedy available when I’ve had a rough day.
  9. He has to be loyal. In a world of players and liars, loyalty is hard to find but it’s an absolute requirement. In the forever club, no players or players are allowed.
  10. He must share my family goals. For me in particular, my family goal includes marriage and children, but I think everyone should make sure they find someone who shares their family goal (no matter what that goal is).
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.