Don’t Be An Idiot: Give The Nice Guys A Chance

A bad boy might get your adrenaline going, but a genuinely nice guy can bring a whole different kind of rush, and you’re seriously missing out without him:

  1. He’s not selfish in the bedroom. The nice guy cares just as much about pleasing you as he does himself. Of course he wants to finish, but he always makes sure that the party isn’t over until you get your orgasm, too.
  2. He knows your time is precious… … So he’s not going to waste it. You won’t be waiting by the phone and he’ll never bail on plans. While the jerks of the world can never find the time, the nice guy knows how to make time, because you deserve to be a priority.
  3. He’s up for anything. All those selfish boys who didn’t care about what you wanted and would only hang out on their terms could learn a thing or two from the nice guy. He cares what you think and what you want. Finally you’ve found a man who makes your bucket list his, too.
  4. He doesn’t have any ulterior motives. He’s not just trying to get you into bed and he doesn’t just want to show you off as a hot piece of ass. The nice guy doesn’t use you for his own selfish needs. If he’s with you, there’s no need to read the fine print, because his intentions are always open and honest.
  5. He gives a whole new meaning to Netflix and chill. The guy legit enjoys spending time with you, even if you’re just bonding over a Friends binge watch session. He doesn’t need sex as a reward for hanging out with you. He genuinely enjoys your company and if there is sex, it’s just an added bonus.
  6. He actually cares about your happiness. The jerks in the dating game don’t give a crap how you feel, but the nice guy makes your happiness a top priority. Remember all those guys who you tried to make happy while they made you miserable? Well, say goodbye to the ungrateful and hello to one who actually cares.
  7. His words actually mean something. The nice guy knows that actions speak louder than words. So he’s never afraid to show you how much he cares. His words are never empty and you’re never left guessing how he really feels. You don’t just have to hear about how much he loves you — you feel it, every single day.
  8. He doesn’t play mind games. Finally — a man who actually means what he says. There’s no reading between the lines here, ladies. There are no mixed signals and he’s never confused about his feelings. For once, dating isn’t complicated, because the nice guy knows how to play fair.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.