Don’t Bother Dating Me If You’re Not Ready For An Adult Relationship

Some people are fine with casual, shallow relationships, but I don’t have time for that. What I’m looking for in a partner means so much more, but not everyone is willing to do what it takes to develop that connection. If you’re not willing to go the distance in a relationship, I’m not the girl for you.

I don’t have time for fake. 

We can sit and have small talk all day, but I’ll get bored really quickly. I want to be real and see you for what you really are while also showing you who I am. Come as you are, or don’t come at all.

I don’t want to be your booty call. 

Sure, we can connect physically, but don’t treat me like some sort of booty call. Besides, I want a deep connection that’s more about intimacy than just sex.

I don’t want to keep things light. 

You might say we’re “casually dating” but all I hear is that you don’t want anything substantial. When it comes to the love buffet, I’m all about eating rich foods that leave me satisfied. I want a relationship I can dig my teeth into and that will mean something at the end of the day —not leave me hungry and feeling empty.

I want to share. 

I want to invest in something real. To do that, I need to know that you are keen to share what’s important to you with me, like your dreams for the future. That’s how I really get to know someone, and if I’m dating you, then I want to have those deep conversations.

I want to have support. 

I don’t want to be in a relationship that doesn’t offer support for both partners. I need to know that we’re a team and that we care deeply for each other. If we’re just hanging out and you’re not replying to my urgent texts when I need someone, then you should get out.

I want to build something that will last. 

Lots of relationships are like sand castles — they look cool, but they’re really just waiting to get smashed, and it happens so easily. I don’t want those kinds of relationships. I want to build a partnership that stands the test of time. If you’re in it, then you’ve got to be in it completely.

I value a mental and emotional connection.

We can hit the dance floor all night or go do fun stuff on our dates, but honestly, I also need time to sit and chat. We can have amazing sex, but there are times when I also need to be affectionate without us taking our clothes off, such as by just cuddling or kissing. It’s that deeper mental and emotional connection that makes us get closer.

I need you to take off your masks.

If you’re the kind of guy who wears a lot of masks, like you’re trying to be who you think I want instead of who you really are, you’re going to have to bare your true self when you get to know me. I don’t want to see your best self only — I want to see you on an off day. That’s important to me so we can be real and connect on a deeper level.

I need to be able to trust you. 

Trust is a must for a deep, fulfilling relationship, and I need to be able to trust you. How can I do that if we’re not getting deep with each other, and if we’re not taking the time to get to know each other on a real level?

I need to know you’re ready for commitment. 

As a deep woman, I don’t feel fear about getting closer to someone, and I want a partner who’s the same as me. I want you to want to take the risk of having an amazing relationship and baring your soul without freaking out. I don’t have time for immaturity.

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