I get why people enjoy period sex – it’s primal and uninhibited and really shows that you and your partner are comfortable as hell with your body – but I am not one of those people. No matter how sexually free I feel, I’m never going to openly bleed all over my partner. I’m definitely not a prude, but to be honest, I find the idea of it really gross. Here’s why:
- It’s a huge mess. Period sex is extremely messy, and not in an easy-to-clean type of way. There’s blood everywhere, and that’s going to leave stains and additional smells that are going to be unpleasant… and that’s putting it lightly. After having incredible sex, the last thing I want is to have my post-sex glow stamped out by looking around and wondering if someone has just been murdered.
- I’m usually too tired to clean after sex. If I have multiple orgasms, I pretty much collapse into a deep sleep right away, so there’s zero energy left to deal with all that blood on the sheets, mattress, and our bodies. Pass.
- I’m in too much pain. My period pain has gotten worse over the years, and I’m physically incapable of doing much more than curling into a ball on the couch in my PJs. I don’t want sex when I’m in that state – only ice cream.
- Seeing my partner covered in blood is a turn-off. I can see the logic behind period sex in that there’s so much passion that neither you or your partner care about being covered in blood. I can also see how witnessing your partner with your blood on them is hot in a primal/territorial sense. However, I prefer to see my partner covered in sweat from how hard our bodies are working. Beyond that, I want to see every detail of my partner’s bod clearly, with nothing blocking my view.
- It’s not when I’m at my horniest. Some women are at their horniest during their period. Not me. My sexual desire peaks right before my period and about three days after. I listen to my body, and my sexual needs basically take a nap during menstruation. Even if I wasn’t so grossed out by the idea, I’m just not feeling it.
- I have nice sheets. My sheets are soft and high quality and if I had regular period sex, it would destroy them. I’m not rich, so I can’t afford to replace those sheets every month. I’d rather sleep well on amazing sheets every night than roll around in my blood once a month.
- Um, blood clots? Let me be clear: I find nothing gross about periods. It’s a natural process every woman experiences and any man that’s grossed out by periods is not yet a man. I just don’t like the idea of period sex, and a lot of that has to do with blood clots. On heavier flow days, a few blood clots are a given. However, it’s not something I want to see anywhere on my partner’s body. That’s not so cute.
- I’d be distracted the entire time. I can’t enjoy sex if my mind is somewhere else. During period sex, it would be thinking about my sheets, how heavy my flow is, can he tell I ate an entire carton of ice cream for lunch?, and pretty much everything listed above. Distracted sex is not fun sex, and I only like fun sex.
- My lingerie is expensive. Along with my sheets, I like to splurge on lingerie. Lingerie makes me feel sexy because I select only the pieces that accentuate my favorite body parts. The last thing I want to do is bleed all over my barely-there lacy underwear. Plus, lingerie is delicate and hard to wash in the washing machine, so I’d have to hand-wash all the blood out. No thanks.
- I don’t feel sexy when I’m having my period. I’m not always confident in how I look. I’m getting better, but it’s still not a constant thing. And when I’m having my period, physically uncomfortable and bloated AF, I simply do not feel sexy. I don’t feel compelled to have sex just to have it, no matter how I feel. I listen to my body, and I do feel sexy the rest of the month (unless I’ve just eaten an entire pizza, because obvs). I always want to feel my best when I share something that intimate with my partner, and my period is when I feel my worst. So waiting until the blood and pain are gone is what works for me. But that’s just me.
