You totally believe that everything will be so much better when you’re no longer solo, but life and love aren’t exactly a fairy tale and just because you have a boyfriend doesn’t mean that you have zero problems. If you’re expecting these things to magically improve when you’re no longer single, you should think again:
- Your self-esteem. It’s easy to be insecure when you’re single — it just takes one bad date or one guy who rejects you to make you want to hide in your apartment for the rest of time. But the old saying is still totally true: if you’re not comfortable with who you are, that’s not going to suddenly change when you have someone special in your life, so you should probably work on that self-confidence before landing a BF.
- Your crappy job. It would be awesome if finally finding love could magically improve your job situation, but unfortunately that’s just not going to happen. You’ll be happy in one area of your life but hate the rest of it. So instead of thinking that your job isn’t important because you’re searching for a boyfriend, get a new job that you actually like.
- Your laziness about chasing goals. When you’re in love, everything else tends to fall into the background, but what’s the point of that? You still have dreams and goals and so you might as well get started on making them come true… before you get into that annoying yet amazing love bubble.
- Your happiness. If you’re unhappy, there are a million reasons ranging from your stress levels to family drama to your crazy workload. It’s a super terrible idea to rely on a guy to make you happy. That’s just asking for a bad break-up.
- Your social life. Tired of feeling like the only single girl left in your crew? Sick of going to parties and weddings alone and listening your friends gushing about their love lives? That stuff won’t get better just because you have a BF now. He might not want to go to everything you’re invited you and your friends are still going to be annoying sometimes (sorry but you know it’s true).
- Your family relationships. You’ve started to dread family get-togethers or the holidays because everyone always asks what’s up with your dating life, but you’re still going to experience tons of family drama even when you do have someone in your life again. They could claim he’s not the right one for you and totally stress you out, or they could complain about something else you’re doing (like your career). Sigh.
- Your lack of excitement. Everyone gets bored with their lives sometimes, especially now when it’s that weird winter/spring combo. Your life won’t magically get fascinating when you finally find a guy — it might get even less exciting if you two don’t make an effort to leave your apartment. So make your life amazing right now, instead of waiting for this mystical boyfriend.
- Your entire life. How many times have you thought that everything would be so much simpler and better if you were no longer simple? Even though you know it’s not necessarily true, you can’t help but believe it. But your life won’t be better if you have a boyfriend — it’ll just be different. So make your solo life the best it can possibly be, so when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready.
