If You Don’t Find Me Irreplaceable Then I Might Just Replace You

While I know I’m far from perfect and that I have plenty of work left to do on becoming the woman I want to be, I also know my own worth and that I have a lot to offer the right guy. If you’re with me, you should recognize that worth as well and feel lucky to be with me. After all, if you don’t see me as someone special and irreplaceable in your life, what’s the point?

  1. You should feel lucky to have me. We should both feel blessed to have found each other, but if you find me replaceable then you obviously don’t feel blessed enough. Being with me should feel like you won the jackpot, not like you won five dollars on a scratch off. I should be worth more to you than that. If you really felt lucky to have me, if you really loved me, you’d know I’m priceless.
  2. I’m a confident woman. I have too much self-respect to ever be a guy’s backup plan. I’m not interested in second place. I don’t want to be runner-up who wins by default. I deserve to be your first choice. I’m one hell of a woman, and every woman deserves more than a man who makes her feel like he’s settling.
  3. I want you but I don’t need you. I’m with you by choice. I’m in this relationship because I want to be. I love you, but I don’t need you, and there’s a huge difference there. If you think you could replace me with another girl, maybe you should go ahead and do so because we’re obviously not meant to be.
  4. I’m not desperate for love. I do just fine on my own. The single life doesn’t scare me. I’m a strong, independent woman regardless of whether or not I’m in a relationship. I’m not dependent on this. I love you, but if you can’t love me back in the way I deserve, then I’m not afraid to walk away from you.
  5. If you’re not sure about me, I’m moving on. I want a man who’s confident in his love for me. You shouldn’t have to question whether or not we’re right for each other. You should just know, and if you don’t know, then it’s not right. If you can’t be sure I’m the one you want to be with, possibly for life, then I won’t live in your world of self-doubt.
  6. If we don’t have a future, we don’t have a present. When you think of your future, do you even want me in it? I need a “yes” or “no” answer, not a “maybe if nothing better comes along.” I’m not in this for the right now — I’m in it for the long haul, so if we’re not on the same page, I guess this is goodbye.
  7. I won’t be taken for granted. I’m a great girl who deserves to be appreciated. I shouldn’t go unnoticed by a man who supposedly loves me. You mean the world to me, but I deserve the same sentiment from you. I’m a great girlfriend, but there’s only so much I can give.
  8. If you really loved me, you wouldn’t compare me to anyone else. If you’re going to be with me, then be with me. You shouldn’t be thinking about other girls or wondering if you could do better. That’s not fair to me. If you don’t love me with your whole heart, I’m not interested in just a piece of it. I want a man who doesn’t need to compare me because there is no comparison.
  9. I won’t let you treat me badly just because I love you. I’m stronger than that. The fact that I love you doesn’t blind me to mistreatment. I’m not just going to let you walk all over me in the name of love. Why? Because that isn’t love. I might love you, but I won’t stay with a man who can’t love me in return.
  10. I refuse to settle. If you believe you can do better than me, then go right ahead, because I refuse to settle for a man who’s waiting for someone better to come along. I might love you, but if you don’t feel the same, I’m strong enough to let you go.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.