You Don’t Need A Boyfriend — Here’s How To Date Yourself

You may want to find a great guy to share your life with someday, but why does that have to be right now? Give yourself a break from chasing guys and stop giving your time and attention to dudes who continually prove they don’t deserve it. Instead of dating them, date yourself. Sure, it might sound cheesy, but it might just be the best thing you’ve done in a while.

  1. Spend Some Quality Time Alone. Dating is all about spending some quality time with the other person. In this case, YOU are the person you should be spending that quality time with, which means you need to set time aside to enjoy your own company. Sure, you can go on a few group dates with your friends and family, but a majority of your dates should be with you and you only.
  2. Get To Know Yourself. Like any relationship, you have to get to know the other person. In order to get to know yourself, you might want to reconnect with your old hobbies and all of the things that have made you who you are. This is the perfect time to figure out what your likes and dislikes are. Even if you think you already know yourself pretty well, you can always know yourself better. In fact, you may even discover some new passions.
  3. Treat Yourself To Something Nice. Buy yourself flowers and chocolates! Not just whenever there’s a special occasion, but randomly and often. After all, it’s your job to make yourself feel important and wanted on a daily basis. If roses make you feel extra special, buy yourself roses! You deserve it.
  4. Take Yourself Out On Dates. Don’t be afraid to go places that might be considered popular “date spots.” Feel free to treat yourself to a romantic dinner or a movie. Trust me, no one is going to judge you if you’re sitting at a five-star restaurant by yourself. In fact, they’ll probably be jealous of how comfortable you are being alone. Go wherever you want on your dates — it doesn’t really matter where as long as you go somewhere that brings you joy.
  5. Cook Yourself A Nice Meal. You’d make dinner for your boyfriend, wouldn’t you? Of course, going out to dinner every night can get very expensive, even if you are just dating yourself. So, instead of paying for a nice meal, make yourself a nice meal at home. Light some candles, enjoy a glass of wine, maybe even complete the night with a bubble bath.
  6. Respect Yourself. In order for any relationship to work, there has to be a mutual level of respect. You have to treat yourself with respect if you want anyone else to. That doesn’t just mean going on nice dates and buying yourself gifts, either. It’s important that you speak kindly about yourself and that you don’t let other people talk negatively about you.
  7. Dress Up For Yourself. Raise your hand if you buy a new outfit before a date! Keep doing that (if your finances allow you to) — don’t stop dressing up just because you’re dating yourself. If you’re someone who likes to get all dolled up before a date, then get all dolled up before your date with yourself. However, if you’re someone who likes to stay casual, stay casual. Wear whatever you’d usually wear that makes you feel good about yourself.
  8. Teach Yourself Something New. Is there something you’ve always relied on a boyfriend to do for you? Maybe change a spare tire or cook elaborate recipes? This is the time to start doing those things for yourself. You’re your boyfriend now, so, you have to know how to do certain things for yourself without relying on someone else. Not only will you learn how to do something new, but you’ll be empowered by your newfound independence.
  9. Leave Social Media Alone. Being in a relationship is very time consuming and usually, social media takes a back burner — that should still happen when you’re dating yourself, too. Deactivate your Tinder account (because you shouldn’t be cheating on yourself) and stop constantly scrolling through Instagram and Facebook. Keep yourself busy — too busy to look for validation on social media.
  10. Profess Your Love To Yourself. Practice making yourself happy by professing your love to yourself. Take time to appreciate who you are, just like a boyfriend would. Fall in love with your body, your mind, your ambition, and all the special talents you have. Give yourself thoughtful handwritten notes filled with positive affirmations. Just make sure you’re seeing how special you really are.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.