Sorry, But I Don’t Need A Connection With A Guy To Sleep With Him

Sorry, But I Don’t Need A Connection With A Guy To Sleep With Him ©iStock/teksomolika

I don’t care what other people say about me. My sex life is no one else’s business, so they don’t get to have an opinion. That’s why I’m not going to wait to sleep with someone I have a connection with, even if it means risking my reputation.

  1. I’ll do it when the moment is right. I’m not going to wait until the third date to sleep with him if the sexual tension is overwhelming on the first date. You can’t schedule sex. It should happen organically or it shouldn’t happen at all.
  2. Having sex doesn’t make me promiscuous. Sleeping with someone I feel a genuine connection with isn’t a crime, so why would I wait? I’m not going to torture myself just to create the illusion that I’m an innocent little angel.
  3. I won’t deny myself pleasures in life. If I’m craving cheesecake, I’m going to eat it. If I want to sleep in, I’m going to hit snooze. And if I want to sleep with a sexy man, I’m going to drag him back to my place to have the night of my life.
  4. I don’t want to waste my time with him. We might click at the dinner table, but if we’re not sexually compatible, the whole relationship will fall apart. That’s why I want to know what I’m getting into from the start. The sooner we have sex, the better.
  5. Dating rules are complete BS. The generation that followed the three-date rule is the same generation that has a high divorce rate. Why would you want to follow in their footsteps? Create your own set of rules, and maybe you’ll have a relationship that lasts.
  6. He has no right to judge me. A man can’t judge me for having sex on the first date, unless he wants to have a long conversation about double standards. If he thinks I’m promiscuous for doing the same thing that he’s done, I don’t want him anyway.
  7. Sex is good for the heart and soul. Sex isn’t just a fun thing to do when I’m bored and horny. It’s actually healthy. It can boost my immune system, reduce my headaches, and increase my libido.
  8. I deserve to orgasm. I’m not going to orgasm alone in my bed when I have a hot man waiting to climb on top of me. Besides, I spend hours doing my hair and makeup before a big date, so I deserve that orgasm. I earned it.
  9. It can teach me more about him. I can learn more about a man from one night of sleeping with him than of weeks of dating him. When I get him into bed, I’ll find out how selfish he is, how creative he is, and how respectful he is. He can hide his personality over dinner, but he can’t hide it in the bedroom.
  10. I love sex. Men brag about their sex lives all of the time, so why shouldn’t I? Sex can make my body tremble, bring me closer to someone I like, and make a dull day more exciting. That’s why I love sex, and I’m not afraid to admit it.
Holly is a science fiction and horror writer, who has recently been published by Flash Fiction Press, Infective Ink, and Popcorn Press. You can find more of her nonfiction articles on All Women Stalk, The Talko, and News Cult.