You Don’t Need Excitement — You Just Need A Normal Guy

Women have a reputation for being drama queens, but there are plenty of guys out there who seem to love being dramatic, too. Lots of us have dealt with men who were non-committal, emotionally unavailable, or just plain crazy. While it might have made things interesting for a while, this is why you’re much better off dating a guy without all those issues:

  1. He’ll know how to love you. You’ve talked. A lot. He’ll know your needs, your hang-ups, and the damage you’ve suffered in the past. He’ll do everything he can to make you secure in your relationship. No head games, no push and pull, and no giving and then taking back.
  2. You won’t have to make excuses for him. When he doesn’t show up, when your friends are asking how things are, when someone asks why they saw him with another girl, you won’t have to lie. Normal guys keep their word, so you won’t have to worry about your partner embarrassing you.
  3. Your loved ones will approve of him. No one will be asking you what the hell you’re doing with a guy like HIM. Your friends and family will dig that he’s the kind of guy that has his act together. You’ll be relieved when you realize you’re never going to get taken aside to be a part of that awkward relationship intervention.
  4. He’ll be predictable. Whoever said that predictability is boring was dead wrong. Relationships aren’t meant to be spent wondering what’s going to happen next, if he’s going to bail on you again, or if he’s ever going to get over his fear of commitment. When you’re with a normal guy, you won’t miss the ups and downs of a relationship roller coaster once you see how nice it is to have consistency.
  5. He’ll communicate. He won’t dodge the hard questions, string you along, or heap false promises on you. The exhausting task of decoding words and reading between the lines will be a thing of the past with a normal guy. No need to find out he’s pissed at you from a passive-aggressive tweet; if his mouth is moving, he’s speaking the truth.
  6. He won’t stress you out. He won’t withdraw himself emotionally, leaving you asking yourself what the hell you did. He won’t create conflicts that aren’t there or manipulate you to get his way. He’ll have dealt with his issues and gives you the best version of himself every single day.
  7. He won’t let you walk all over him. He won’t stand for it when you start panicking that things are going TOO well and unconsciously try to start arguments with him. He’ll promptly put you in your place by reminding you that you’ll always have his love. And then you’ll adore him even more.
  8. He won’t need a makeover. Remember that guy that was SO perfect for you except for that one teeny-weeny flaw that you solemnly swore that you’d change? You’re not with him now, are you? A normal guy will be good enough just the way he is. You won’t have to worry about correcting his flaws because you’ll already have the man you’ve always dreamed of.
  9. He won’t need to be rescued. Baby kittens stuck in trees need rescuing, not grown men. You might be a strong woman with the power to save anyone in need, but normal guys won’t have a huge stack of issues that you’ll need to handle for them. When you only have to worry about your own problems, it leaves a lot of room in your relationship for just being happy and enjoying each other’s company.
  10. He won’t make you work for love. With a normal guy, you won’t find love dangled in front of your nose only to be taken away every time you get too close. He’ll take your needs and your relationship seriously. He’ll never use his affection as a way to manipulate you, instead giving it to you freely.
  11. He’ll make you better. Spending time with him will enrich, inspire, and challenge you. His love will make you want to go out into the world and try new things. When you’re with a drama-free guy, your relationship won’t hold you down; it’ll build you up and help you realize your potential as a human being.
Lauren is a freelance writer living in New Jersey. When she's not deeply immersed in pondering the cosmos, you'll find her hiking a mountain, reading something philosophical, or dancing in her underwear. Read more of her existential musings at