Every single woman must still be searching for her other half, right? BS. Assuming that a woman is somehow lacking something because she’s not in a relationship is offensive and ridiculous. I’d love to find a great guy to share my already amazing life with, but I certainly don’t need one to complete me — I’m already whole all on my own.
- I’m fiercely independent. Not only can I make it on my own, I actually love my own company and cherish my alone time. Life isn’t about needing a guy — I’m figuring out this journey on my own just fine. I’m working for myself, paying my own bills, and taking care of my own well-being. I don’t need a man to make my life amazing; that’s all up to me.
- A relationship will never define me. I’m a great person regardless of my relationship status — I’m a complete person with or without a boyfriend. If I believe I’m only half a person now then that would mean I’m just waiting for a guy to come along and define me, and I won’t give that power to anyone. I won’t ever put myself in that position and I’ll never lose myself to a relationship.
- I have confidence without or without a guy. I don’t need a guy to make me feel intelligent, beautiful or important. My self-esteem is just fine. If I allowed myself to feel less than whole then that missing piece of me would just fill with self-doubt. I’d be telling myself that I can’t make it on my own, but I can and I am.
- I have self-worth. If I think I’m just a piece missing my other half then I’m saying I’m not worthy enough to stand as a whole person on my own. Someone else’s life doesn’t mean more than mine just because they’re in a relationship. My life has worth even if I’m single and I won’t let anyone tell me otherwise.
- I’m the source of my own happiness. I don’t need a guy to make me happy. I’m not waiting for someone to come along and fill a void in my heart — my heart is already full of love and happiness. I have friends, family, and a career I’m passionate about that bring me enough joy already. Finding Mr. Right wouldn’t make me happy, it would just be an added bonus.
- Finding love is a bonus, not a necessity. Why does being a single woman imply that something is missing from my life? Why isn’t just being me good enough? Finding love would be amazing and I look forward to it, but it’d just be the icing on the already awesome cake I’ve created for myself already.
- I don’t feel empty inside. If part of me was missing, I think I would feel that emptiness, but I don’t. I don’t need a guy to fill my heart. It’s already full. Just because I don’t have romantic love in my life doesn’t mean I have nothing. I have people who love me and most importantly, I love myself.
- I want a partner, not a puzzle piece. I don’t want someone exactly like me, nor do I want my exact opposite. We don’t have to fit together like two halves making a whole person. My life isn’t some weird puzzle I need someone else to help me figure out. All I want is a partner I can walk through life with, not a guy to help my life make sense.
- Being alone isn’t shameful. I shouldn’t need another person to give my life meaning. Romantic love is wonderful and amazing, but there are other equally amazing things in life too. I don’t feel ashamed of being single because there really is no shame in it. It’s where my life is right now, and that’s more than fine by me.
- I might want a guy but I don’t need one. Suggesting that I’m not whole on my own implies that I need a man to complete me. It’s like being single is living a half-life, but it’s not. Even if I never find “The One,” my life is still complete. Why? Because I choose it to be. I want to find love, but I don’t need it. I’m whole.
