You Don’t Need To Have A Partner To Have An Incredible Life

If there’s one thing that most single women have in common, it’s wondering if love is out there. You definitely know that no matter how hard you try to find your person, sometimes it feels like the universe is against you. The truth is that you will most likely meet the right guy. The only question is, it is really so bad if you never do? Here are all the awesome things you can do with your solo AF life:

  1. You can travel a few times a year. Single women and travel seem to go together like peanut butter and jelly… and for good reason. You have the free time, you have the money, and you have the curiosity. You can totally do the same thing. You’ll feel like you’re actually living instead of sitting at home and watching Netflix for the millionth time this month. That’s a good thing when you’re trying not to feel down about not being in a relationship.
  2. You shouldn’t put things off until you find love—do them now. It sounds good to say that by this time next year, you’ll be in a steady, stable relationship and so you can buy a condo/go back to school/start your own business/do what you really want to do with your life. The only problem with that? You have no clue when you’re going to find love, so you might as well do what you want now. Once you do what you enjoy every day, you’re going to realize that not finding love isn’t actually the worst thing ever. You’ll be too happy to overthink it.
  3. You can spend more time with your people. Look on the bright side of singledom and you’ll realize that without date nights or going to all of your BF’s work and family events, you’ll have a lot of time to hang out with the people that you love. Schedule brunch dates with your girlfriends, dinners with your parents and siblings, and even embrace making new friends.
  4. You can rock a side hustle. If you love your job but hate that one area of your life isn’t perfect yet—you don’t have the boyfriend that you’ve been searching for—then why not have some fun? You can create a side hustle for yourself. This will be both a happy distraction and a meaningful way to spend your time. There must be something that you’re interested in but don’t want to make your full-time gig.
  5. You can start your own business. Another thing that you can do when you’re single forever? If you’re not thrilled with your career, you can start your own business and actually love what you’re doing on a daily basis. It’s amazing how positive this change can be. There won’t be any reason to complain about not meeting the right guys when you’re hustling so hard that you look forward to your work days.
  6. You can follow your heart without being selfish. There’s a difference between being happy and confident and being so self-involved that people can barely stand to listen to you. Instead of living up to the stereotype of solo women who don’t think about others, you can be an optimistic person who seriously enjoys life. Isn’t that awesome?
  7. You can change your mind 100 times. Without a relationship to tie you down, you have the freedom to make as many life changes as you want. It doesn’t matter if you’re on your third career change or if you’re still figuring all that stuff out. You don’t need a partner to figure out what makes you happy.
  8. You can move to a new city (or even a new country). Most people have some kind of wanderlust. If you’re in a committed relationship, then where you live has a lot to do with where your boyfriend lives, of course. Say you’re dying to live in New York or even London and he has no interest. That can be a real problem. You don’t have to deal with that, though. You can live in the place that you’re dreaming of.
  9. You can really relish your free time. You’re dying to binge the latest episodes of Pretty Little Liars and your boyfriend doesn’t want to join you (for some reason…). Sure, you’ll have fun relaxing with him and finding something that you can both watch, but in the back of your mind, you’re wishing that you had a bit of alone time. When you’re seriously single, you can enjoy your free time because you get to decide what you watch and what you do. That’s no small thing.
  10. You can focus on living a healthy AF lifestyle. There’s no reason why you can’t be healthy when you’re coupled up, and yet sometimes couples tend to eat more junk food and spend a lot of time on the couch. You’re only responsible for yourself and can really focus on crushing your goals
  11. You can create the life that you really want. There’s nothing wrong with having a partner to share your life with, but there is something that you should probably consider: making decisions as a couple is much harder than making choices when it’s just you. Why not be glad that you’re single instead of feeling lonely AF? Create the life that you really want and you won’t worry about what you don’t have. You’ll be way too busy focusing on how much fun you’re having. And that’s the whole point, right?
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.