I Don’t Need Pity For Being Single, I Deserve Praise

I might be single AF, but I don’t know why that’s anyone else’s concern. Telling someone I’m single can feel like I’m telling them I have the Bubonic plague. I don’t need their pity though and frankly, I’m sick of it. I deserve a lot more praise.

I’m proud of my independence.

I’m a strong woman who’s providing for herself in this world. I’m not dependent on a man and I think that’s amazing. “Single” doesn’t have to be a bad word if I don’t look at it that way. I’m not alone, I’m independent and there’s a huge difference. I’m making my own way in the world and owning my choices. This is my life to live and frankly, if I’m happy with the way things are, why does anyone care if I’m in a relationship or not?

I just haven’t found “The One” yet.

I know that I will eventually though. I believe having a positive outlook on love changes everything. My past relationships didn’t work out but that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with me or even anything systematically wrong with my exes. It just means we weren’t right for each other—nothing more, nothing less. If only other people could accept that as the reason for my single status…

I’d rather be single AF than divorced.

I refuse to contribute to the divorce rate in this country. I don’t care how old I am, I’m going to take my time settling down. I want to make sure I’m with the right man—a man who treats me right and a man I’ll never grow tired of. I know that no relationship is perfect and they all take hard work but I’m not going to say, “I do” until we both agree it’s forever.

I still have my friends and family.

It’s not like I’m locked up in my house day and night with no one in the world to talk to and no friends to speak of. I have an active social life. I’m close with my family and I have good friends as well, so I’m not entirely alone in life. If I ever need someone, I have plenty of people to call who would be there for me in a heartbeat. Isn’t that what really matters?

I’m a person who actually enjoys her alone time.

If I was in a relationship, I would still need my space. I’m not lying when I say I truly love being alone. I love having me time. I’m an introvert at heart so I need that time to fill my energy back up because being social all the time drains me. I’m someone who’s comfortable being all by herself and I’m proud of that, not ashamed.

Being single is so much better than being with the wrong guy.

Every guy I’ve dated so far has been so completely wrong for me. In the beginning of those relationships, I may have thought that we had a future, but in the end, all they gave me was misery. After knowing what it’s like to be with Mr. Wrong and what it’s like to be a single lady, I’d choose single AF any day.

I’m still young and I’m in no rush.

Too many people worry about getting married and having babies before they even have a chance to live their lives. I don’t want to rush into something and end up with regrets or resentment towards a man. I have plenty of time to fall in love and start a family. When the time is right I’ll find the one, but I’m not going to wait around for my life to start. I’m just going to keep living my life to the fullest.

I have an amazing life, so people can keep their sympathy.

I may not have found love yet, but that doesn’t mean my life is worthless. My life still has meaning—I just wish other people could see that. There is more to life than finding a man. I have passions, a career, friendships, family, and so much more. I don’t have to have a boyfriend to know that I’m blessed and to be grateful for what I have.

I refuse to settle.

When I finally find real love, I want it to last forever. I’m not interested in something temporary. I believe in soulmates so I’ll be single until I find “The One,” not just someone. I don’t want to settle for something comfortable when I know I could have a love that’s life-changing. I truly believe my parents are soulmates and I’m going to hold out until I find that kind of love and commitment too.

I feel sorry for anyone in a relationship just so they don’t have to be alone.

Those are the people I pity—the ones who are unhappy in relationships and unhappy out of them. The people who stay with someone they don’t love or even someone who mistreats them because they’re too scared to be on their own. I don’t need anyone feeling sorry for me because I’m not sitting here feeling sorry for myself. Believe it or not, I’m happy without a man. So no one needs to pity me for simply being single.

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