You Don’t Need To Be A Supermodel To Get A Guy’s Attention — Just Do This Instead

Some girls were just born lucky with perfectly sculpted noses, good eyebrows and butts that don’t look like sad, week-old birthday balloons — and more power to them! But for those of us who haven’t won the genetic lottery, it’s not time to give up hope quite yet. To have the dudes trailing after you even at the height of a bloated, zit-faced period-week slump, pull up a seat and prepare to take notes.

1. Build strong female friendships. Forming solid bonds with your fellow ladies is like remembering to put on your parachute before you go skydiving. Girlfriends aren’t just great for sharing makeup and hair tips (although those always help) — they’re imperative when it comes to building up your self-esteem, getting out of the house to meet your next dude, and learning to own everything about what makes you, you. When you’re out and about with your gals, it’s way easier to catch a guy’s attention — and remember, wolves hunt in packs for a reason.
2. Build strong male friendships. Picking apart the male psyche is a dangerous, ill-advised endeavor — but when you absolutely have to, it’s best to have a solid dude friend to rely on. Having a close group of guy friends gives you more confidence around the less-fair sex, but more importantly, it gives you access to their guy friends. Sometimes, attraction is just straight up a matter of numbers: the more men you meet, the more likely it becomes that you’ll meet some who won’t be able to get you out of their heads.
3. Develop your own fab sense of style. Having killer style isn’t just about looking good — it’s about feeling good. We’ve all seen that girl on the street who’s knowingly killing it with her outfit of the day, and you can bet that her male admirers are seeing that, too. Confidence is sexy — and so is being comfortable in your own skin. Pay attention to what you wear that makes you feel absolutely dangerous and work from there!
4. Stake your claim on a signature scent. It’s that moment when you brush past someone in a crowd and inhale, only to be greeted by what is hands-down the best perfume, cologne or natural scent of all time. Just like dogs sniffing each other’s butts, humans are naturally inclined to develop attraction based on scent — so even if you’re having one of those days where it looks like you fell out of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, at least you can still slay with your scent.
5. Laugh harder, louder and more often. Happy people are beautiful people — what are the odds? You might think your smile makes your nose look too big or your eyes look too small, but everyone around you will be falling in love with the bouncy, positive vibes you’re filling the room with. Don’t be afraid to let loose and enjoy yourself! People are only attracted to brooding, grumpy sourpusses in bad romance movies.
6. Dig deep into your passions. Think about your most intense rockstar crush or that dude at that poetry reading who made your heart go all aflutter. If you can push past the palpitations and take a real look at the objects of your artistic affections, you might realize that they’re not exactly supermodels. Ed Sheeran has been using his sultry croon and guitar skills to fake being attractive for years — and so can you! Figure out what you love (other than the attention of musically inclined gingers) and launch yourself into it full-force. Being passionate about something (and getting good at it) can make up for any number of physical flaws when it comes to attracting suitors.
7. Take care of yourself. You don’t have to be a supermodel to clean up okay — and paying attention to all those little superficial details won’t just improve your aesthetics but your mood as well. Treating yourself to a manicure or breaking out a cheap at-home face mask will leave you feeling like a million Beyoncés, and even just making sure you’re drinking enough water and getting enough sleep will up your pretty-girl glow. Clean hair, hydrated skin and a little exercise here and there gives off the appearance that you have all your act together (even if you don’t) — and men will take notice.
8. Slay your stress demons. Attractive babes have the ability to keep cool, calm and collected, even when everything they own is literally on fire. Your relationship with your own wants and worries might be holding your amazing personality back and keeping the force of nature that is you from truly shining. It’s hard to focus on your growing ranks of admirers while you’re losing sleep and tearing your hair out over work, money and man probs — which means it’s time to put an end to your self-sabotaging ways. Kill all those stressful dragons and get amped up for all the positives in life instead!
9. Own it at your career. Some men are too insecure to admit it, but working girls are hot. When you’re doing what you love, loving what you do and absolutely slaying at it all at once, men won’t be able to get you out of their heads… even on your worst hair days. This isn’t the era of fainting couches and damsels-in-distress anymore — independence is sexy! The men you want blowing up your phone aren’t looking for a limp noodle with no ambitions. They’re looking for someone who can ball just as hard as they can. You can toast each other over your successes with champagne later.
10. Redefine the laws of attraction. There are too many types of beautiful to ever be able to check every set of boxes — so instead of stressing out over it, you’re better off forgetting those boxes entirely. Being a man magnet isn’t about having long legs, intense curls or an impossible waist. Attracting hordes of handsome dudes is all about knowing your strengths and playing to them like a first-chair violinist at Carnegie Hall. Know what you’re about, own that crap — and try not to let all the attention go to your head.