You Don’t Really Know Your Boyfriend Until You See Him In These Situations

You might think you know your boyfriend better than anyone else, but if you haven’t seen your boyfriend outside of his comfort zone, do you really know him or do you just know what he wants you to see? Regardless of how long you’ve been with him, you don’t really know him until you see him in these eye-opening situations:

  1. When He’s Passionate About Something When he’s talking about his crazy goals and maybe super unrealistic dreams, you see a different side of him. He probably knows he won’t achieve everything he’s dreamt of, but that doesn’t stop him from opening up to you about it. He trusts that you won’t judge him for dreaming “too big.”
  2. When He’s In Pain He’s not always going to be strong and happy. Like everyone else on earth, sometimes he’s going to be in pain, physically and emotionally. If he’s expressing his pain to you instead of hiding it, he’s showing you a side that you’ve probably never seen before — and probably won’t see often.
  3. When He’s Not Trying To Impress You You need to see him when he’s not trying his best to look or sound cool. When he’s just being himself without any pressure to impress you or other people is when you can see who he is, flaws and all. If he shows you that side of himself, it’s because he isn’t afraid to show you exactly who he is.
  4. When He Introduces You To His People He might be closer to his friends than his family, and that’s fine. Everyone has specific people they turn to, but when he finally introduces you to those people, it’s important to be observant. He wants to see the way you interact with his friends and vice versa. However, you can also see the way he interacts with the people he deems important. The way he exists around them will tell you a lot about him.
  5. When He Opens Up About His Problems When he’s confiding in you about a problem or an issue he has, it’s not because he just wants someone to talk to. It’s because he wants you, specifically, to talk to. He could’ve opened up to anyone, but he opened up to you because he trusts what you have to say.
  6. When He Talks About His Ex-Girlfriend The way he talks about his girlfriend says a lot about the kind of person he is. If the relationship was serious, it makes sense that the breakup would be hard to get over. Still, if he’s truly over the relationship, he won’t feel the need to speak negatively about his ex or her actions. If he badmouths his ex every second he gets, he’s either a jerk or just a guy still in love.
  7. When He Tells You About His Past His past is more than just failed relationships and used-to-be friendships. His life, like yours, has consisted of a lot of pain, happiness, bad choices, good choices, and memories. If he wants to share those, it’s because he wants you to be a part of his entire life — past AND future.
  8. When He’s Hanging Out With His Mom Your boyfriend is going to be a completely different person around his mom than when he’s hanging out with you and his friends, but it should be different in a good way. He’s loving, sympathetic, and kind to his mom because he has a strong sense of respect for her. Seeing him in this specific situation shows what kind of husband and even father he’ll be in the future.
  9. When He’s Afraid Of Something When he talks about the things that keep him up at night, he’s showing you his vulnerable side. He wants you to know he’s not Superman and that he does care about how his life turns out. If he’s taking the time to tell you about his deepest darkest fears, it’s because he trusts you to listen without repeating the information to other people.
  10. When He Puts Himself Out There When he’s upfront with you about his feelings and able to tell you for the first time that he loves you, he’s giving you more than just vulnerability. He’s letting go of his fears, worries, and doubts, and letting himself be completely free and open to you. He’s showing you everything and he feels like he can because putting himself out there and loving you is now more important to him than anything else.
Jordan White is a lifestyle, sex, and relationship freelance writer with a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about. She is based in Scottsdale, Arizona and despises the heat more than anything. Living is one of her favorite hobbies.