You Don’t Have A Right To Treat Me Like Crap Just Because I’m Nice

You Don’t Have A Right To Treat Me Like Crap Just Because I’m Nice ©iStock/Teksomolika

I’m sick of playing nice when I get treated like a nuisance in return. I’m not some rag doll that you can toss around whenever you’re in a bad mood. I’m nice, but that doesn’t give you the right to treat me like crap because of it.

  1. Don’t take your problems out on me. If you have a problem with another person, then you should find them and yell at them. Don’t start screaming at me, just because I’m the closest person to you. I’m not your punching bag, so don’t treat me like one.
  2. I’m not a pushover. Being nice and being a pushover don’t go hand-in-hand. Even though I’ll always ask you about your day and try to cheer you up when you’re upset, I’m still capable of slashing your tires and bashing you on Facebook. So you better watch what you say to me.
  3. People like you make the world worse. You wonder why there are so many bitches out there. It’s because we start out as nice, innocent young women, but then people like you come along. You’ll manipulate us and play games with us until we’re forced to change our attitudes.
  4. Not all niceness should be considered flirting. Don’t get pissed at me when you realize that I’m not actually interested in sleeping with you. I’m allowed to be nice to men that I don’t want to bang. I didn’t lead you on and I didn’t lie to you, so don’t treat me like crap now that you’ve been “friend zoned.”
  5. You should appreciate people like me. Maybe you’ve gotten lucky and have only dealt with sweethearts in the past. But after you spend a little more time in the dating world, you’ll realize that most people out there aren’t as nice as me. That’s why you should appreciate me while I’m still around.
  6. You shouldn’t treat anyone this way. I don’t care if you’re attracted to me or if you don’t want anything to do with me. No matter how you feel about me, you don’t have a right to treat me like crap.
  7. You’re not playing hard to get. Playing hard to get involves taking a while to text back and acting like you’re busy when you’re not. It doesn’t involve insulting me until I cry. That’s just an dirtbag move.
  8. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Haven’t you ever heard of the Golden Rule? It’s something that first graders know, so there’s no excuse for you not to follow it. It’s simple stuff.
  9. I can be nasty, too. I’m not going to keep playing nice when you’ve been treating me like trash. I’ve been nice so far, because I’m a decent human being, but I’m capable of being a total bitch. From now on, you’ll get what you give.
  10. I’ll take my niceness elsewhere. I’m not going to stick around if you keep treating me like crap. Soon, I’m going to be gone. After that happens, maybe you’ll come to your senses and start treating other women with more respect.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.