I Don’t Think I’d Survive Single Life If It Wasn’t For My Amazing BFFs

Let’s be honest—being single can be frustrating, lonely, and sad AF. However, the whole process is much easier knowing that I have some amazing girlfriends by my side. I’m a better person because of the women I’m friends with and it certainly is easier to be alone when my life is filled with great company.

  1. My girlfriends get me. My female friends know me inside and out and the same is true in reverse—we know each other inside out and love one another despite our flaws. Because I feel so loved and understood by my friends, it’s easier to be alone in my romantic life.
  2. They help me grow. I learn so many life lessons with my girlfriends or because of them. They’ve helped me evolve into the amazing person I am today. As Beyonce once so eloquently explained, “I love my husband, but it is nothing like a conversation with a woman that understands you. I grow so much from those conversations.” There’s just something special about lady friends—they help me be better.
  3. I can fill my time with girlfriend hangs. Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I have to be all by myself all of the time. That’d be a miserable existence for me. Instead, I fill my week with quality social time with my BFFs. They make wonderful company because I’ve chosen a crew of women who are just out of this world. What’s not to love?
  4. They laugh, cry, and get mad with me. As C.S. Lewis said, “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'” My friends are there for me and have often been in the same situation before, so they’re able to help when I’m going through tough times. Even if they haven’t, they’re along for the ride with me, by my side experiencing whatever it is I’m going through.
  5. They call me out on my BS. There have been plenty of times where I’ve been self-pitying or full of crap. My girlfriends are the first to call me out on it, making me a better person in the process. Actress Jane Fonda totally knew what I was talking about when she said, “Friendship between women is different than friendship between men. … It’s my women friends that keep starch in my spine and without them, I don’t know where I would be.”
  6. They’re my biggest cheerleaders. I have the world’s most lovely support network. My girlfriends are the kind of people who would show up for me at the drop of the hat. They’re always there to cheer for me when I have something awesome going on in my life. They know both when to press me and when to just hang back and celebrate. It makes it easier when I’m wishing I had a partner because I have gal pals to pat me on the back.
  7. They remind me of everything that’s good about me. Being single for a long time can take a toll on my confidence and belief that I’ll find someone, but my girlfriends so quickly remind me about how great I am. They point out all the things that are good about me because they can see them so clearly. It helps to boost my confidence and remind me that it’s not a moral failing that I’m still single, it just is what it is.
  8. They’ve stuck around longer than any relationship so far. Relationships have come and gone, but my friends have been solid. Even if I lose contact with some, I always have a crew of women who are there for me. They’re my support system when I go through breakups and dating mishaps, so I never deal with anything alone.
  9. I can do date-like things with them. I used to feel like I needed to wait for a romantic date in order to do certain things. Then I threw that idea to the wind and starting doing date-like things with friends. We explored new restaurants, museums, concerts, and outdoorsy things and I learned that I don’t need to wait around for a romantic partner, I can live life with friends.
  10. The relationships are practice for a romantic relationship. In many ways, I’m learning how to be in a relationship just by being in them with girlfriends. I’m growing to understand how to be honest, show up, work through conflict, and set boundaries. It’s been a lovely way of practicing how to someday be a healthy half of a romantic relationship.
  11. The ones with amazing relationships give me hope. I deeply respect all of my friends because they’re lovely humans. Some of them are in long-term relationships that are totally admirable. I can look at their relationships and get hope that someday I’ll have something as healthy and beautiful as they do.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at ginelletesta.com.