I Don’t Want An Average Love—I Want Something Extraordinary

I’ve been in love a few times and while every time was different, it was never true love. I loved each man in a unique way but none of those men were what I would consider amazing or life changing. I’m not just looking for companionship or a little fun to pass the time—I’m looking for “The One” because I want the kind of love that’s absolutely extraordinary.

  1. I want a love that’s going to last a lifetime. I don’t want a few months or a few years. I want a lifetime with one man who wants to spend his life with me. I want to be one of those couples that are still just as enchanted by each other after 50 years as the day they met. I don’t want something brief. I don’t want something temporary. What I really want is forever.
  2. I want a man who will put me first. I don’t want to be another guy’s last priority. Been there, done that, and I’m not going back to that kind of misery. I want to be with someone who thinks I’m the most important thing in his life. I want to fall so madly in love that no matter what, our relationship always comes first. I want the kind of love that’s the top priority.
  3. I want to fall more and more in love each and every day. I don’t want to go through a honeymoon stage and then have our love just be over. I don’t want to settle for being content. I want to be amazingly happy because I get to fall in love over and over again with the same man day after day. I want a love that only grows, and never deteriorates.
  4. I want the man I marry to be my very best friend. I think a lot of relationships are missing something very important—true friendship. Relationships should be built on genuine respect and love just like friendships. I want a man who’ll always be there for me and now that no matter what comes our way at the end of the day we have each other’s backs. I just want to come home every night to my very best friend.
  5. I want a man who’s actually grateful to be with me. I want to be appreciated. I want to be with a man that I feel so lucky to have found and who feels that exact same way about me. I don’t want to be taken for granted ever again. I want a man who thinks that I’m the best thing that ever happened to him. Finding love is hard and sometimes painful, but I want to be with someone who makes everything that happened before I met him totally worth it.
  6. I want to be with someone who never makes me question his love. I want a relationship with confidence. I don’t want to have to ask a man how he feels about me. I want to wake up every day knowing that I’m loved. I want to put worry and wonder behind me. For once in my life, I want to feel safe lying in the arms of my partner because I know that he’s never going away.
  7. I want to love someone who puts in as much as I give out. I’ve had too many relationships where I was the one making all the effort. I’m not going to settle for that unequal type of relationship anymore. I want a man who isn’t afraid to put work into a relationship. I want a man who cares about me and my happiness just as much as he cares about his own. It takes two to tango and I’m done dancing by myself.
  8. I want a man who loves me even when he hates me. I know we’re going to fight. I know that good times always come with bad times too, but I want to be with a man who can love me through it all. I’m over guys who run at the first sign of trouble. I’m done with breaking up and getting back together. I want a man who wants me no matter what, even when we disagree, even when we’re in a fight. At the end of the day, he may not always like me, but his love for me will be undeniable.
  9. I want the man I spend my life with to believe in me. I want my dreams to be just as important as his. I’m so sick of the “stand behind your man” mentality. Why can’t we stand together, both encouraging each other to pursue our dreams? There are a lot of guys out there who still think women belong at home or are only capable of certain jobs. I want a man who doesn’t think I have limitations. I want a man who believes I can do anything.
  10. I want someone who wants all the same things I do. I only have so many days on this earth and I don’t want them to be filled with sacrifices. I want to go after everything I want in life and I want a partner to do it with me. I don’t want to be with a man where we have to live separate lives because we don’t want the same things. I want to share my whole life with someone, not just pieces of it.
  11. I want a man who’s willing to fight for me. I need a partner, someone who will defend our relationship no matter what. I want to finally be worth the effort. We might not always agree, but I want us to be on the same team. I don’t want a man who will ever give up on me. I want to finally feel like I’m a woman who’s worth fighting for.
  12. I want a man who I know would never hurt me. That sense of security is hard to find. I want someone who doesn’t make me worry that each fight might be the end of us. I want to be with a man who makes me know in my heart that he would never leave me. No matter what, I want a man who will always love me. What I really want is a man who I can trust to never ever break my heart.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.