The Nice Guy – the kind of man that every single woman used to want to end up with – has been replaced. Now that it’s almost 2016, the Chill Guy is the new normal. While the nice guy was all about a steady and stable job and lifestyle, the chill guy is all about not freaking out about anything at all. This isn’t actually as good as it seems. Here’s why you want to stay far away from his kind of guy:
- Chill is another word for lazy. This guy will only make you feel bad for wanting something out of your life. While you spend your days guzzling coffee and killing it at your career, he’s lying back and coasting through life. He most likely doesn’t have his dream job but he’s not taking any steps to rectify that. Basically, he’s pretty lazy, and that’s definitely not a quality that you want in a boyfriend.
- He can’t express his emotions. Good luck figuring out how this guy feels about you. You will never have any idea because he sees the fact that you guys are together as no big deal. He won’t initiate the talk or even respond if you try to have it. Life will be a constant guessing game.
- He’ll never plan a date… or anything. This is the kind of guy that will text and ask what you’re up to this weekend… only to ignore your respond and never ask you to meet up. You’ll be left scratching your head. You’ll probably have to plan all the dates, which is super uncool.
- His texts will be sporadic. Remember the amazing scene in Clueless when Cher works on Tai’s vocab? Josh says he hopes to see her and Tai says, “Yeah, I hope not sporadically.” Besides the fact that you learned a new word along with the late Britanny Murphy, this word can explain how the chill guy is going to text you. After the first date, he’ll blow up your phone but never ask you to do anything. Of course not, he’s too chill for that. After the second date, if it happens, he might ignore you for a few days and then ask what’s up. It’s too annoying for words.
- His life is all about his bros. There’s something about guys who appear to be super nice and super calm about everything: they really love their friends. Like more than normal. He and his buddies are playing pool, playing darts, grabbing drinks, going to see the new Star Wars, etc. OK, you get it, you think. He likes his friends. You like your friends too but you don’t need to hang out with them all the time. Has this guy heard of the wonders of alone time?
- Your relationship will be one-sided. You might be OK with this at first, but you’ll eventually wonder why you’re the only one putting all the effort in. When you think about it, it’s not actually a relationship at all if he doesn’t seem to give a crap about what happens. Probably best to move on.
- Nothing will feel real. You know that amazing and magical feeling in your stomach that you get after an actually good first date? Whether you believe in butterflies or not, you usually want this to occur. With a chill guy, you’ll never get that awesome feeling because you’ll never know where you stand. You’ll feel like you made him up and like it’s all in your head.
- He runs out of conversation. The first date with a chill guy will seem like the best thing since sliced bread. He’ll laugh at your jokes, take your opinions seriously and seem interested in what you’re doing with your life. Hallelujah, you’ll think. But after a few dates there will literally be nothing left to talk about because he’s just so chill and blissed out all the time. Sometimes you need some friendly, witty banter to keep the romance alive.
- He’s too accommodating. Of course you don’t want to date someone who argues with you left and right and never agrees to do anything that you want to do. But it’s also not great to be with a guy who never, ever disagrees. You’ll get bored fast and wonder what world this guy is living in because it’s definitely not this one.
- You’ll never know where you stand. If you’re OK with having things stay casual forever and ever, go ahead and date this guy. If not, you might want to go back on your dating app of choice (groan) and find someone who’s not quite so chill.
