I Don’t Want To Be Down On Love, But Guys Just Keep Disappointing Me

Modern dating is crazy — and that’s putting it lightly. I don’t want to give up on trying to find love, but I’m so sick and tired of all the BS that comes along with it. I don’t want to sound so incredibly jaded, but how else am I supposed to feel when men keep disappointing me?

  1. I’m sick of getting my heart broken. Experiencing heartbreak once is enough to last a lifetime, but having to go through that pain over and over again is almost unbearable. I’m fed up with the risk of putting myself out there. I want to find love but I’m over all the ridiculous pain of heartbreak.
  2. I’m tired of men with commitment issues. I don’t have any sympathy left for men who are afraid of love, relationships, or any other part of dating. If they’re afraid of commitment, then they should be single. They shouldn’t go out meet girls like me and lead us on. If a man has no intention of committing, then he has no right to date a relationship girl.
  3. I’m losing interest in dating altogether. At some point, enough will be enough. I can only take so much BS before I throw in the towel. If doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results is insanity, then there’s my proof that staying in the game of love is completely insane. I’m tired of putting myself out there and getting nothing in return. I’m simply sick of failing.
  4. My life is happier when my love life is non-existent. How am I supposed to be enthusiastic about dating when dating makes me so damn miserable? Meeting a new potential love interest might give me joy for a few weeks (or even just days), but sooner or later I see a man’s true colors and then the relationship is nothing but drama. I’m a hell of a lot happier without all that unnecessary stress.
  5. I’m starting to think that love isn’t worth all this BS. How much crap am I going to have to put up with before I find a guy who’s actually worthy of my love? I just want a man who’s going to treat me right, but men like that seem to be far and few between. I’m done with letting men drag me through their baggage and make my life a living hell. Love might be magical, but I’m not sure it’s worth all this.
  6. I wish I could keep looking at the glass as half full. After everything, though, this screwed up glass feels half empty. There are so many fish in the sea, but too many of those fish are total jerks. From the stats on my dating history, the future of my love life doesn’t look so good. So tell me again: why should I be optimistic?
  7. Maybe I need a break from dating. I’m honestly fed up. I’ve experienced too much pain in the name of love. Maybe I just need to take some time to focus on my life alone. If real love finds me someday, that’s great, but for right now, I think I’m done looking for love if all I’m going to find is disappointment.
  8. I just want a man who can live up to his potential. I give plenty of men chances, but they always seem to take me for granted. I’m sick of boys or guys — I want a man. I want someone who’s willing to stand up for love, fight for a relationship, and treat me the way I deserve. I keep looking for that kind of boyfriend material, but I’m starting to wonder if that’s even out there.
  9. I’m over men who are only looking for something casual. I want a relationship, but that seems pretty damn hard to find. I don’t want to keep things casual — I want commitment. I want a man who’s not afraid to give me his heart or be vulnerable. I want more than an almost-relationship. It’s not about the labels; it’s about having a relationship with someone that’s raw because it’s actually real.
  10. I honestly don’t know where the good guys are. Are they hiding somewhere? Because someone, please, clue a girl in. Where are the men who want real relationships? Where are the guys who are too mature to play games? I’m sick of bad boys or even worse jerks disguising themselves as the good guys. I want to know where to find a real man.
  11. There’s no guarantee that I’ll find love. People can tell me to hang in there and that they’re sure I’ll find “The One” someday, but those are just baseless words of encouragement. The truth is that I might never find real love. Plenty of women grow old alone having never married, so many others live life on their own after divorce. Things don’t always work out, and not every woman’s life is a fairytale. I might sound totally jaded, but at least I’m being realistic here.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.