You Don’t Actually Want A “Ross & Rachel” Relationship

We all cheered when we found out Rachel got off of the plane, but when you really think about it, her relationship with Ross was incredibly unhealthy. If you and your partner are looking for a couple to model yourselves after, then you should take a break from watching Friends. Even though Ross and Rachel made a cute couple, there were way too many problems between them. That’s why, despite what you grew up believing, you don’t actually want a “Ross and Rachel” relationship.

  1. They rehashed old arguments. You can’t talk about Ross and Rachel without mentioning the whole “we were on a break” fiasco. Even years after the incident happened, they continued to bring it up. In a healthy relationship, you should resolve your fights, and then keep them in the past. If you continue to blame your partner for things they did wrong years ago, you’re never going to stay together.
  2. It was on and off again. Some couples break up once, and then realize they can’t live without each other, so they get back together. However, if you break up multiple times like Ross and Rachel did, then you probably shouldn’t be together. If you wanted things to work out, you’d would’ve tried to come to a compromise instead of breaking up as soon as things got hard again.
  3. They argued in front of others. You shouldn’t involve your friends in your relationship drama. Ross and Rachel would always complain to the four others about their relationship when they should’ve just sat down together and discussed their love life like adults.
  4. He crossed the line. It’s a bad idea to date any of your friend’s siblings. It’s an even worse idea to date the sister of the girl you’re madly in love with. The fact that Ross agreed to go out on a date with Rachel’s sister, Jill, crosses the line. You don’t want to be with a man who’s comfortable dating your siblings.
  5. He was overly jealousy. Remember when Ross was dating Rachel, but he was overly jealous of her boss, Mark? Even though Rachel is a beautiful woman, she never gave him any reason to worry about her cheating, and yet he continued to act mad and controlling. A healthy relationship requires trust, and those two just didn’t have it.
  6. He cheated. Even if you take Ross’ side with the “we were on a break” situation, he’s still a cheater. After all, he kissed Rachel while he was in a relationship with another woman. He even said Rachel’s name on his wedding day with Emily. If the pair really wanted to be together, they’d break off their other relationships in order to start a real, mature relationship instead of resorting to cheating.
  7. They had nothing in common. You don’t need to share the same interests as your partner, but you should at least try to get involved in some of their hobbies. Ross never had any interest in fashion, and Rachel never had any interest in dinosaurs. They could’ve have had much to talk about. If you want your relationship to last, you need to show at least a little interest in your partner’s affairs.
  8. He listed out her flaws. When you love someone, you only see the good in them. However, there was an entire episode where Ross tried to decide if he wanted to date Rachel by creating a list of her pros and cons. Of course, you don’t want to be with someone who can list off a dozen things they dislike about you.
  9. They were never happy for each other. Whenever Ross tried to move on and find someone new, Rachel was never happy for him. Of course, Ross was never happy for Rachel either. You shouldn’t be with someone who wants you to be miserable when they’re not around. They should want you to be happy, no matter whom you’re dating.
  10. She gave up her job for him. When Rachel got off of that plane to France in the last episode, she essentially gave up her dream job. Even though she loved Ross, she should’ve never given up her career for him.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.