Don’t Worry About “Saving” Me — There’s Nothing I Can’t Handle On My Own

The concept of a poor, desperate woman being saved by a valiant man is a tale as old as time. Even in today’s more progressive society, lots of women think that they’ll never find true happiness until the right guy enters their life. Personally, though, I know that whether or not I have a man by my side, I’ll always be able to get myself through whatever life throws at me.

  1. A relationship doesn’t equal happiness. Sure, it might make me feel good to share special moments with someone, but will it make me feel truly happy? Probably not for long. These moments are fleeting and won’t always be there to comfort me. It all comes down to finding myself and learning how to feel complete on my own. That’s what matters most.
  2. I’m a strong woman on my own. Sure, it would be nice having someone there to love and support me, especially when things are far from okay, but that doesn’t mean I can’t be strong by myself. The truth is whatever I’m going through, I’ll get through it on my own. A man might make me feel protected, but he’s not going to make me a strong person. I’ll do that by myself.
  3. I enjoy my own company. Being alone is something that I’m learning to appreciate more and more. The more time I spend alone, the more I enjoy my own company, and that’s something that’s very important. I might not always have a man, but I’ll always have myself.
  4. What I think about myself is what matters most. Being complimented is nice, but it means nothing if I don’t believe in myself. The moment I start looking to others for reassurance and clarification is the moment I completely lose who I am. I want to make choices for myself without looking for someone else’s approval, and I certainly won’t put a guy’s views above my own.
  5. I’m not completely on my own. If all else fails and I’m really down, I have my friends and family who I can turn to for support. They’re always there if I need a chat and some laughter, and honestly, that’s more than enough. I don’t necessarily need a man to make me feel loved.
  6. There’s more to life than finding my dream guy. I’m not a damsel in distress, and I certainly don’t need a man to come along and be my savior. As cliche as it sounds, life is about living in the moment, making memories that will last a lifetime, and enjoying other people’s company. It doesn’t revolve around finding a man who will take care of me — I can do that by myself.
  7. I can focus on my career. My job is one of the main things that motivates me in life. Of course, there will be days when I don’t like what I do, but that’s not unusual. Most days, I feel powerful, and my abundant career prospects keep me full of hope and determination. I need to keep working hard so I can achieve better things and create a better life for myself.
  8. I don’t need someone to hold my hand. I’ll admit, sometimes it’s nice to have emotional support, but I’m really fine. I can support myself, I know how to take risks, and I can definitely make my own choices and decisions without the help of a man. Honestly, I don’t need a helping hand through life — I’m doing great!
  9. I’m so much more than my relationship (or lack thereof). I don’t want to be confined to my relationship status. That shouldn’t be the first thing people associate me with. Society needs to change this ideology that a relationship is the most important thing about a person. I want to be known for more than that — I’m a strong, determined woman who wants to inspire others.
  10. The only person who is standing in the way of happiness is me. Ultimately, I’m responsible for my own happiness. I can’t depend on a man to make me happy, because it will only set me up for disappointment. Even if I have his love, it’s still not going to make me love myself. It’s not going to be enough. There will always be moments, regardless of whether I’m single or in a relationship, where I will feel completely alone. I’ll be lost in my own thoughts and then the truth will suddenly hit me: I’m my own savior.
Coralle is a freelance writer and blogger with a special interest in Mental Health & wellness, Women's health, and relationships.

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